My insensitive dub brats (found some pictures)

MsMcDucket

When my husband was in the hospital, they told me that they had been going out of town to various states. They were like mom, you didn't know we have drove to Arkansas and (some other state) to go visit some unknown witnesses! OMG, I could of stroked! My babies going out of state and not even notifying me. I use to be so protective of them. I can't believe they're on their own; but, I think they should tell me if they are going to be driving to some other state on the highway!

I'm still trying to let go. It isn't easy.

I've run out of posts for today, so I'm adding this to this thread. I happened to make a response to an AOL news story board and found this. I had no idea these pics were still online! The pic of the girl looking provocative or what have you is my oldest daughter. There's a couple of pics of my husband, pics of the twins and my youngest. We all were a lot younger!

carla

Informing you would have been the courteous and loving thing to do. Sorry. Guess that's what dubs do, throw away family be it mothers, fathers, spouses or children. None are immune from the loving nature of dubland. They have been treating you like crap for quite sometime now, they ought to be ashamed of themselves. This type of behavior is the legacy of the jw's, this is what I tell non jw's about and they are appalled.

sammielee24

I'm still trying to let go. It isn't easy

Don't let it go. No need to be overbearing but genuine concern isn't being overprotective - it's a good feeling to know that even when you are older, mom and dad care enough to worry. There will come a time that mom and dad won't be there for them to hear those words and they'll miss them. sammieswife.

Odrade

I often drive to another state on the highway without informing my mother. If she called me an "insensitive brat" for doing so, I would be highly incensed. I am an adult, and being such am not required to clear it with mommy if I want to take a road trip. Perhaps they are simply giving you the same measure of respect that you are giving them?

Scully

like mom, you didn't know we have drove to Arkansas and (some other state) to go visit

I would have said "Like, no, I'm not a mind reader. And, like, how was I supposed to find out if you aren't, like, telling me?"

Yes, they are adults. Yes, they are on their own. Are you still paying for their cell phone? and vehicle? Are you covering their car insurance? If you are, then, like, you need to close your wallet, girlfriend.

MsMcDucket

I often drive to another state on the highway without informing my mother. If she called me an "insensitive brat" for doing so, I would be highly incensed. I am an adult, and being such am not required to clear it with mommy if I want to take a road trip. Perhaps they are simply giving you the same measure of respect that you are giving them?

Odrade, unfortunately, my girls think just like you. They are only 20 years old and just moved out the house. I don't know what to say to you to make you understand how I feel and for you not to be offended by it.

I try to keep them in the loop when there is a change in the family and of our where abouts. I had hoped they do the same.

Odrade

"unfortunately," huh? The way I see it, the easiest way to alienate an adult child is to call her an "insensitive brat" for doing the normal, everyday things adults do. Now... if you ARE still footing all the bills that allow them to take a roadtrip, then surely they should let you know what they are doing with your car and your money. If it is their car, their money, they are on their own, and paying their own way, it is not being an "insensitive brat," it is called being on their own.

But I suppose only you know if viewing them as insensitive brats is the best way to improve your strained relationship with them. Frankly, I'd reserve that attitude for the times they REALLY do something insensitive and bratty... like shun you at the hospital while visiting their father.

MsMcDucket

Here's a larger pic of my hubby and the kids. We had went to see Hoover Dam and then went to Disneyland.

penny2

MsMcDucket, I wouldn't worry too much. It's all part of changing family dynamics - children becoming independent and older ones letting go. It's natural for them to want to break free and it's natural for you to be concerned. My mother still worries about me and I usually keep her informed when I go on trips (and I'm 51). I'm more conscious of her feelings now than when I was 21. When I look at younger members of the family being inconsiderate, I think, "Oh well, they are on a learning curve too."

penny2

searching4truth

They gotta grow up sometimes

My insensitive dub brats (found some pictures)

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