Blondie - I so agree with you that we shouldn't let the past poison the present, whatever our age.
I think for some, what has been lost, and even 'who' has been lost and left behind, all those 'could have beens' are just too painful.
So what will they do now.....?
by Gill 31 Replies latest jw friends
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Gill
fokyc - I'm sorry to read your post. I hope the lady in question has not been found guilty and sentenced.
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Gill
Atpeaceatlast - I'm sorry to read that you left a loved one behind. It's always painful to dwell on something good that 'could have been'.
However I'm so happy for you that you walked away from the Watchtower slavery at such a young age. Well done!
If only me and I could have.....
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blondie
Having learned to deal with having an alcoholic parent and a sexually abusive parent, I was able to use the tools from those experiences and apply them to the WTS experience. I learned that that life dealt me the parents I had, I survived, I found other people that became healthy surrogate parents to me. I learned not to be sad over what I did not have; it was an accident of birth. But I treasure the skills I gained and I have helped others to see that their lives are not over whether they grew up in an alcoholic family, sexually abusive family or both, or a religiously abusive family.
Blondie
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Gill
((((((((((( Blondie )))))))))))
I'm glad that you learned to survive 'the past'.
To survive is one thing, but to grow as you have done, is something special!
To help other people to grow also, goes way beyond the call of duty.
I wish I could be like you.
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lovelylil
Gill,
That was very powerful! Thanks for sharing it. Lilly
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Gill
That's cool, Lovelylil!
That will happen one day. Eventually the light will get brighter and the BS will be so obvious that to some people it will be a devastating experience!
The Watchtower may well go on, but only for those who choose to cover their eyes and ears and have no where else to go, and perhaps very little time left to 'go' anywhere.
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JWdaughter
That was a sad story, and could have been true of my mom if my non JW dad hadn't saved us all from that fate. And perhaps gave my mom a little talking to at a few points. Thank GOD, I love my mom, and would hate to be removed from her completely, and I imagine her life now if all 3 of us kids had joined and then, as we all WOULD do, left. She would be very screwed.Actually, she would be dead already. Thats good enough reason for ME to come on this board and be an encouragement to those who have chosen to leave or who are trying to muster up the courage to do so.
I have a vision of a girl i used to go to the hall with. She is one I have never been able to get info about. I am convinced she is a spinster, living in a small apartment, driving a small 4 door beater while she pioneers and helps out her parents (as they have rejected their other 3 children who seemed to have more common sense and probably left). I am so glad to not be that person.
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Gill
JWdaughter - I know of several women whose lives have gone that way, spinster hood and loneliness, as they serve a blood sucking book making company.
I'm sure we can all sit down and list a few like that.
What about the young JWs who leap into a marriage just to get away from an unhappy family life and overbearing parents. Some jump from the frying pan to the fire! My son was contacted recently by a former JW girlfriend, with a very over bearing Elder father and JW family. She tells him that she is getting married in a few months and then leaving the country.
I feel very sad for her. I'm afraid the last time I saw her, I had just caught her in bed with my son and given them both an ear bashing......mainly in shock, actually. I would like to say sorry to her, as I feel sad for her and her predicament.
But Watchtower land has more than its fair share of sad, sad stories. Too many sad scenarios to list, that are repeated over and over in all congregations.
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lilybird
Great post and insight into the future , Gill. My husband and I have talked about this very real future for the Dub friends we left behind. We wonder how many now that we grew up with and are now in their 40's secretly wonder if they have wasted their lives and when we are all in our 70's and 80's they finally realize how they really have wasted away their lives.
We are happy that at least we left before we would have wasted our kids lives away if we had raised them as Dubs also.