Divorced, treated like crap from local Hall. Looking for new faith.

by magdalenefan 24 Replies latest jw friends

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  poppers

  Almost forgot to add, welcome to JWD.
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  Honesty

  ((((((((((Magdalenefan))))))))))

  I never knew how to really treat, love and care for a woman as a JW.

  The reasons are:

  The WTBTS/JW's are a cult and they don't have the Holy Spirit anywhere near them.

  There are no support classes for young married adults that help them adjust to going from barely getting to know each other (sometimes the couple have never spent one second alone just to talk) to sharing a life together.

  Just thank God that you are out from under the necromancy that is practiced by this God dishonoring group.
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  MinisterAmos

  I remember being a study, and inviting a few over for a pizza party, but it was the time I wasnt baptized so they read me the verse, and declined.

  Thanks for clarifying the point that I have been trying to make about these folks. They don't suffer persecution, but go all out to find, indoctrinate and then persecute mercilessly the weak, suffering and lonely.

  It's all about control and "victimology". They have perfected the art of claiming to be victims while literally lying and withholding info about the religion to studies.

  Fortunately you're in the minority as most new Dubz are children. Adults see behind the curtain at least a little.
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  VanillaMocha73

  So sorry to hear. I went through the same - broke, homeless, nowhere to turn, escaping a long history of abuse and they cast me out like dirt. No concern for my emotional and mental health at all. Feel the love? What helped me:
  

  • Going to another church - Ac3.org - not the replacement or the new belief, but seeing that there was love out there, that God really isn't like the JWs portray him - incredible healing
  • My fav song - Yes Lord helped with that horrible feeling of shame that WT instilled in me.
  • prayer - God is still out there and very real and He loves you

  it will get better.
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  magdalenefan

  Thanks so much for your heartfelt encouragement. I dont like, or ever encourage divorce, but I think it is a personal matter that only the husband and wife knows if things get irretrievably impossible, , or too hurtful, then divorce happens.

  I know a sad story of a very handsome elder whose wife had been sick for many years. She got so sick that she lost her looks to the severest degree. Whenever they were at the hall he would always have an annoyed uncomfortable look being besides his wife. There was never any affection.

  I saw him at a store at midnight, I had to get medicine or something, I was startled to see a family man at that hour, and asked about her, politely wishing her well. He says every night he goes out, kisses his children then gets some snacks and coffee, and it was nice to see me, nice to talk to you , bye." It was polite exchange.

  A sister said that his wife cries in bed every night, alone, despondant, depressed ,helpless.

  I dont know what they would do.
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  Elsewhere

  This is why I will *NEVER* affiliate myself with any religious organization. Doing so gives them far too much power and control over one's life.
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  magdalenefan

  Oh, by the way, I did visit a local Bible church, definately more at ease. It made me feel better a little while, But I will be looking more inside of myself for faith?
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  mrchuffster

  Hey magdalenefan , big hugs, i know exactly what your going through, been there myself.

  Its like the hyenas are out and the vultures are circling, I really don't know why they encourage people to come along when they treat you like this.

  Trust me the pain will ease with time and knowledge, build your esteem back and try and put their attitude behind you.

  Just know that you are a worthwhile person, we all make mistakes even self righteous witnesses.

  Love and Warmth coming your way.

  mr chuffster
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  greendawn

  Welcome to the forum, we have read here umpteen experiences which show that the JWs are nothing but a very legalistic entity without any real love for their members. However the real christianity should have love at its centre.
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  jgnat

  But I will be looking more inside of myself for faith?

  Sounds like a plan!