THE HAPPY FACTOR

by Dogpatch 40 Replies latest jw friends

  • Dogpatch
    Dogpatch

    Here's a question that I haven't seen addressed directly:

    Why are there many Witnesses who enjoy the organization immensely?

    No matter what you tell them, they would not dream of leaving. In fact, that would be their greatest nightmare.

    I know, because I was that way.

    Until I figured out the real motives of the GB (while at Bethel), and what the Bible really said vs. their interpretation.

    I know that we (being in a situation where msot of us feel the Watchtower is a cult, and that Witnesses are unhappy people) don't often ask a question like that. But the answer will be interesting.

    Randy

  • Sparkplug
    Sparkplug

    I would think that for some ignorance is bliss. Perhaps?

  • itsallgoodnow
    itsallgoodnow

    I think that's a really good question. I have wondered recently what makes a person happy with being a witness. I know I never really was happy with it. I even dreamed of leaving it when I was a kid. So why are some of my family so happy with it? I mean, the "raised in its" like me, not the converted. I figure it's one part having to feel superior to other people or special and one part having to feel like you have all the answers, knowledge,and information you will ever need. And if you are a guy, the whole thing can be pretty sweet, just walking in, with your male appendages, gets you a whole crap load of honor and respect, I guess if you call kissing elders butts and fighting over microphone handling important, you might actually feel important.

    Or maybe they are not happy at all, but just in denial, or never were very good at listening to that little voice inside telling them something is wrong. I don't know. I wasn't one of the happy ones. I'm so thankful for that, you have no idea.

  • Arthur
    Arthur

    I can only answer for myself.

    For me, it felt exciting to be a member of the one and only true religion on earth. It felt gratifying to be superior to all other relgionists. To know that I was "special" in the eyes of God gave me a feeling of pride and superiority.

    I also lived in a state of comfort. It was easier to let the organization do my thinking for me. I felt a sense of security by having my reality sliced, diced, and trimmed into nice, neat categories where I did not have to confront the ambiguities or uncertainties of life. I did not have to worry because "the end was just around the corner".

    Another factor was the social aspect of it all. My only friends and aquaintances were Witnesses. This reaffirmed my faith in the organization. My reasoning was that if so many wonderful, intelligent people are convinced that this is the "truth", than it must be.

    I think that the salvation by works concept also provides a morbid form of security. I reasoned that as Jehovah's Witnesses, we were superior to all other Christians because we worked so much harder than them. "Other Christians are lazy and complacent" - was my thinking. As tiring, exhausting, and discouraging as the organizational treadmill was; I was sure that working hard and toiling in organizational busy work (however unfulfilling it might be) would garner favor from Jehovah God. In short, it was my ticket into the New System of things.

    . . . . . . . . If I only knew way back then what I know now.

  • greendawn
    greendawn

    They view the WTS, their local congos as being a great social club of reasonably honest brothers and they don't mind giving the org some hours of their time each month in exchange for this. Then some elders enjoy the power and social prestige of their position whereas other JWs may have businesses that do well out of being in the org.

  • bernadette
    bernadette

    Its like being in a marathon that never ends

    everyone cheers you on so long as you don't stop - you can run fast, or walk.

    The pointlessness is very thoroughly dismissed.

    You are promised a huge prize at the end.

    You don't have to think of anything else.

    The disappointment of not being able to continue is hugely disappointing - you'd rather force yourself to 'happily' continue.

    And as in a race JW's run on adrenalin for the most part.

    bernadette

  • Crumpet
    Crumpet

    Great Post bernadette! I know you are closer to the finishing line now though! LOL - which is good news.

    I personally do not believe people in the borg are happy. I believe they portray happiness. After all why did we as kids have to be constantly told to smile on the service, to smile on the walk from car park to football ground for the assembly, to smile smile smile.

    Kids smile because they are happy. they look miserable when they are miserable. We are constantly told to potray an image of happiness - a vision of the happiness to come in paradise. If you spoke to individuals I rarely remember meeting any that were genuinely happy. I only noticed the difference when I came out - and found people that were quite happy, yes they had problems like everyone else, but mostly they were happy. they just lacked the fake hope of rescue that dubs cling to and which makes them feel superior.

  • AK - Jeff
    AK - Jeff

    I was very legitimately happy as a Witness. For long periods of time that is; at other times I was miserable when I could not understand the lack of real integrity and 'theocratic thinking' among others in my midst.

    Most of what Arthur stated could have been my answer too. I always wondered though - why I was given the nod of approval by the Most High, when so many seemingly godly people were not - that always bothered me. I daydreamed about the New Order, I really did. I felt it was real, and the deflation that came when realizing how I was lied to was nearly unbearable at first.

    Still - once I shook off the shock - REAL HAPPINESS took over. Happiness that was not created by external promises, but happiness that comes from within, when one begins to do what humans were given to do - LIVE now, not in some future dreamscape.

    Jeff

  • Dismembered
    Dismembered

    Greetings Randy,

    I'd say I'm in agreement with Ms.Crumpet. In retrospect, to me, the smiles, and the 'happiness' they attempt to exude is bogus. IMO many would love to leave, but, as they've said to me. "Where else are we going to go?" Assemblies, and going out to dinner thereafter means alot to some people.

    Dismembered

  • needproof
    needproof

    I raised that with somebody, to which he said 'but what else is there'

    It's the old WT Jedi mind tricks coming out again, do you remember how many times they used to use that scripture 'But Lord, to whom shall we go?'

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