OK now, I'm really an apostate

by dawg 31 Replies latest jw experiences

  • dawg
    dawg

    So, I go to my JW uncle's funeral for obvious reasons! After the funeral my family invites me to dinner, something we haven't done for some time (probably 8 years or so) as I'm considered disassociated not disfellowshipped. I guess this is allowed per the new JW policy but since that crap changes from time to time I'm not sure. After dinner, my sister tells me how sad she is that we really aren't a family any longer and expresses a desire to mend fences. We both had a few burbons under our belt and I thought I sensed doubt in her heart. So, I wrote her a 8 page letter outlining why I dropped out including Beth Sarim and other facts that would make any sane person at least think about what a hoax these morons are. She must have given the letter to the elders as now neither she, my parents nor anyone else in the faimly will talk to me any longer! So I wrote her another letter telling her to never contact me in anyway again. I'm so sick of their crap! I told her that she may think of me as "spiritually dead" but to me the family is brain dead and unable to think squat or crap without the society's permission. Honestly, I feel free!

  • megsmomma
    megsmomma

    I like what you said...We may be concidered spiritually dead by them, but they are brain dead to us!! LOL!! Struck me as pretty funny!

    It is so easy to get labled apostate. It is their way of saying we don't swallow their crap.

    Sorry about your family, I am glad you are handleing it well though. How long have you been "out"?

  • needproof
    needproof

    Congrats

  • OnTheWayOut
    OnTheWayOut
    After the funeral my family invites me to dinner, something we haven't done for some time (probably 8 years or so) as I'm
    considered disassociated not disfellowshipped. I guess this is allowed per the new JW policy but since that crap changes
    from time to time I'm not sure.

    The JW elders almost certainly reminded JW family that they should not have had dinner with you.
    The very strictest of their application of the rules allows them to associate with you concerning
    family matters, like a funeral, but tells them not even to eat with you.

    They were probably told to totally avoid you, or face judicial actions because of what they did.

    CRAP is right. Good for you.

  • dawg
    dawg

    Thanks guys, 17 years I've been mentally abused by these idiots; There was one period they wouldn't talk to me for 3 years.... I'm serious when I say this, they'll never see my face again not unless it's by accident.

  • Dismembered
    Dismembered

    Greetings dawg,

    You did precisely the right thing. Who the hell are they to judge you.

    Dismembered

  • reneeisorym
    reneeisorym

    It must feel great to let go of them :)

    Congrats on the freedom.

  • ex-nj-jw
    ex-nj-jw

    Feels good to tell them to F**& Off doesn't it!!!

    I know how you feel, good job

    nj

  • ButtLight
    ButtLight
    The JW elders almost certainly reminded JW family that they should not have had dinner with you.
    The very strictest of their application of the rules allows them to associate with you concerning
    family matters, like a funeral, but tells them not even to eat with you.

    I think it has to do with where you live........After my grandpa's funeral, I was also invited to the dinner.......where ALL the Jws were, not just family. I didnt go for fear some stupid elder would walk up to may and say I shouldnt be there......or worse yet, end up at a table by myself!!!

  • new boy
    new boy

    Good for you........but I would still leave the door open just in case they see the error of there ways.

    Love is the answer.........Give them what they can't give you, unconditional love.

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