Why didn't they try to save you? F..E..A..R!
They've been taught to fear any who appear to be going contrary to what the GB directs.
This lesson is learned by rote and remembered.
Ed.
Why did they not try to 'Save' me?
by AK - Jeff 46 Replies latest jw experiences
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Hortensia
because they don't really give a damn. When I faded, it was a visible fade in that many in my former cong. knew I wasn't going to meetings at my new cong. Only one elder showed up, ever, and that was only to try to make me feel guilty because I had been his wife's only friend and now she had no friends. Eh, not my problem, you know? I was glad they didn't try to "save" me, would have made my exit harder. Just as glad to be ignored.
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cognizant dissident
Jan 1, 2006, my new years resolution was to stop attending meetings. I also stopped putting in time. My son also stopped going and putting in time at the same time as me. My husband was an MS. We did not receive one phone call, or one shepherding call from any friends or elders.
4 months later my mother asked me if I went to the memorial, I said no and I haven't heard another word from her about it. In the summer, a friend sent me an e-mail saying she missed me at the assembly. A couple of weeks ago I got an e-mail from another friend saying "We miss you!". She is single and has no family, so I can imagine who the "we" is. It is now 1 year and 3 months and still nothing. Not one question from anyone including the many witnesses I run into in town. It is a little strange. I was expecting a little pressure at least from my friends. But nothing. Not even a question, "why". I am starting to think they are afraid to ask me because they are afraid of what I might say.
I just phoned up my father who lives in another town and is the PO of his congregation and told him I am no longer an active witness. He did ask why. I told him I don't believe it anymore. I never said a bad word against him or the organization although there was plenty I could think of. I just kept saying, I don't believe that's the truth to every argument he brought up. After only 1/2 an hour he ended the call and I have not heard a word from his since. This was two weeks ago. He did ask me what my status in the congregation was and if I was df'd or dissasociated. I told him no. He asked if any elders had called on me. I said no. He sounded very shocked so I'm not sure if he is going to call some up and send them over. I hope not.
Cog
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Clam
It was always a mystery to me too. I agree with Willyloman. Admonishment is easy. Conciliation is harder.
The WTS
ä is a commercial organisation that in my opinion doesn't protect its investment, although maybe it can be said that shunning and other methods are their preferred tactic.
I stopped going to meetings
and only one person asked me why, my Elder ä brother-in-law. "Don't you believe it's the truth anymore?" he asked. I love him to bits and I didn't want to rock his world. "Yes I do but I can't live up to the standards" I replied. I'd so much love to go back in time and give him the real answer. In an attempt to save his feelings I put the blame on myself rather than the Watchtower. ä
Clam
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blondie
There was only one catch and that was Catch-22, which specified that a concern for one's safety in the face of dangers that were real and immediate was the process of a rational mind. Orr was crazy and could be grounded. All he had to do was ask; and as soon as he did, he would no longer be crazy and would have to fly more missions. Orr would be crazy to fly more missions and sane if he didn't, but if he was sane he had to fly them. If he flew them he was crazy and didn't have to; but if he didn't want to he was sane and had to. Yossarian was moved very deeply by the absolute simplicity of this clause of Catch-22 and let out a respectful whistle.
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Scully
I think this is the thing that disturbs me more than anything else about the JWs I used to know.
In the last dozen years or so, not one JW - not even family members - has ever done anything to try to bring me back to The Truth™. Do they really not care about anyone but themselves? Are they really that selfish?
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daystar
I've thought about this before too.
I can, perhaps, understand the WBTS, etc. not putting too much effort in trying to redeem those who've started to fall out or have left due to their finding out about certain... discrepancies. Once your eyes have been opened they can't rightly be shut again.
But what I can't understand is their not trying to recover those who've fallen due to what they consider "immorality" since those people most often still believe all the rest of the crap and would probably come back easily if assisted in a loving way. I know I would have.
Thankfully, they didn't even try with me.
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tijkmo
If you're struggling, you're left at the side of the road to die. JWs aren't good Samaritans.
i wrote a song about it..
SHOOT THE WOUNDED
LYING AT THE SIDE OF THE ROAD LIE’S A BROKEN MAN BLEEDING FROM AN OPEN WOUND
PRAYING FOR SOMEONE TO COME ALONG TOO WEAK TO CRY FOR HELP KNOWING DEATH IS COMING SOON
SHOOT THE WOUNDED…SHOOT THE WOUNDED
THEY’RE NOT OUR RESPONSIBILITY
DON’T REALLY CARE IF THEY LIVE OR DIE
JUST PUT THEM OUT OF OUR MISERY
AND AS THE RAIN COMES DOWN AND SKY TURNS BLACK AND THE PAIN NOW GIVES WAY TO FEAR
AND THE ABIDING NEED IS FOR SOME HUMAN TOUCH BUT THERE ARE NO GOOD SAMARITANS HERE
SHOOT THE WOUNDED…SHOOT THE WOUNDED
THEY’RE NOT OUR RESPONSIBILITY
DON’T REALLY CARE IF THEY LIVE OR DIE
JUST PUT THEM OUT OF OUR MISERY
AND WE HAVE NO TIME..TO CARE FOR THE ILL
BUT WE’RE NOT UNKIND..WE WILL MERCY KILL
BUT WE WILL NOT STAND BY YOUR FUNERAL PYRE
IS THIS WHAT YOU CALL YOUR FRIENDLY FIRE
Solo
SHOOT THE WOUNDEAD…SHOOT THE WOUNDEAD
THEY’RE NOT OUR RESPONSIBILITY
[ DON’T REALLY CARE IF THEY LIVE OR DIE
SHOOT THE WOUNDED REMOVE THEM FROM OUR SIGHT ] x 3
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Borgia
I am not making a fuzz or have a for all to see apostate ministry (although I have but concealed!)So, I've seen some half hearted efforts made, the word effort does not even apply, maybe: attempt, nothing else. Not even a response when I did not file my hour report for 3 months in a row. Just the kind request to not forget to file them.
No need for karate. Just the basics of akido, but then with words.
What if they really would try? The elders will lie awake at night while the pointy responses keep repeating through their heads. Bereft of an answer they will try to shut there eyes but that would not be possible.
The only mantra that will "help" to ease up is: FDS.
Now I come to think of it: Looks like drugs.....!
Cheers
Borgia
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Tuesday
I don't know if it's fear or that they just don't want to hear anything anti-orginization. They feel they could get in trouble for even hearing it.
I don't know that all elder's do it for the power, I mean given alot may seem that way and even alot really do just want the power in the congregation, but I know I was approached once. At my Grandmother's funeral one of the elder's came up to me and said "I'm only a phone call away" he was sincere and it was a nice guesture, so I of course ruined it by saying "so am I".