Would you have married a non JW (page 4)

The wanderer

The problem was that I was not attracted to the Jehovah's
Witnesses mindset and that was the reason why I never
married in the "truth".

Although, I have to admit there are a number of pretty
women in the organization, it was the fact that many
were codependent which I found to be a big turnoff.

Coming from a single parent family, I admire a woman
who is independent, educated and strong in character.

Would I become involved with a former Jehovah's Witness?

Maybe, but I would not look for it any longer because I
think there could be allot of issues and baggage there.

Respectfully,

The Wanderer

prophecor

If only that attitude had prevailed in the Borg....

Honestly, Free, I could never measure up to the standards of a JW Sister. not from where I saw things, anyway. I tried to make the packaging look good by trying to outwardly project spirituality by always doing. Always in field service, always leading the group on some of the most inclimate of days. It was always about doing. I was a human " doing " not a human " being ".

I truly believe at times, that my only reason for being in the truth was so I could legitimately marry a Sister so as to continue to live in never never land together. Then I married outside of the truth with my eventual, principal objective, that of making her one of us. Of course it never worked out.

FreeGirl2006

Proph,

Funny you say that you never measured up because frankly I never measured up to the "brothers" standards...I was too much my own person even though I was raised in the truth and I never hesitated to voice my opinions. A relationship within the borg was doomed! I really tried hard to be the picture perfect sister, but pioneering was not for me, dressing in boring clothing was not for me, acting like a stepford wife...not for me and all the bros I met were looking for that. Now, I am grateful to be able to meet some normal healthy men who just want...normal healthy woman and dating has taken on a whole different tone.

Sorry your marriage experience outside the borg didn't work out, but perhaps with a non-cult outlook it will be much better next time. :) I don't see how many borg marriages last anyway!

golf2

I did and I knew all the scriptures that said, I shouldn't. We lasted almost 44 years until death stepped in. I never had any problems marrying a non-witness.

Golf

Xena

No. Never even considered it.

Numinous

People need someone who really understands them if they are thinking of marriage. I can understand the problems that can come from having a husband not support you, arguing about raising the kids...but once a person quits the organization they may still feel they need someone who knows how they feel about such a big part of their lives. I have been out since Oct. 2001 and am happy to have that one person who helped take me to where I am now and who has read more on this discussion forum and the subject of witnesses than I have...what a blessing it is, but would I ever marry or have a close relationship with someone who doesn't understand what happened? Eventually.

Warlock

Now none of it is an issue. I'm glad to be with someone who has a JW background so he understands from where I came. And the holidays are not such a big deal. Neither of us really care about them that much. They are a non-issue. But if we feel like getting excited about them, that is OK too. *Sigh* How pleasant!!!

Baby Girl,

This is exactly how I would want it.

I know it will work well for you two.

Daddy Warlock

uwishufish

I too soon realized that jws were no fun on a date. Living alone in SoCal on the beach 30 stories high and driving a Jag XKE V12 afforded me the opportunity to go to the clubs and bring home my dream date of the night on more than one occasion.

Albeit there were some jw girls who came to my bed but I tried to avoid these as there were possibilitys of strings being attached. These jw girls I would meet at huge DCs of the time period even meet one at a night club in Westwood.

So to answer the question I married a catholic girl in 81 we are still married.

rowan

hell yes! there were only arrogant cheese and cracker men to choose from.

Fisherman

I would have no problem with it. Most non jw spouses are better than a jw as sposue. Probelm is that one would be ostracized fo ever and ever. The marriage is controled by the wts and the jw spouse rats to the elders. I refused to hear complaints without the other mate present. Especially the siss always taking about their mate to the elds. I do not see any advantage in marrying a jw except for having privilidges. It is better to marry someone that is loyal to you first, a non religious person that is not commited to sttending religious services and having to obey religious rules that interfere with marriage.

Would you have married a non JW

Share this