X-Wife Got Married Yesterday........Our Son is Shunned Today!

by new boy 33 Replies latest jw experiences

  • LeslieV
    LeslieV

    You got to love the fact that they can't have sex unless they are married, so by golly I will just start hitting on woman at my wife's funeral. How sick is that!!!!! Like was mentioned those two deserve each other. I am sorry you daughter was hurt, both your kids sound like good ones.

    I also had the samething happen to me. I decided I no longer wanted to be a crazy JW mostly because I didn't want my 3 girls married off when they turned 18. I also wanted them to go to college and experience life. But my JW elder ex-husband thought that I was taken over by Satan and left me and my kids. He remarried a JW woman that he had known when he was a teenager. My kids tell me he isn't happy, but at least he can have sex. Again just like your wife, my husband deserves what he has.

    Just be glad you are free from it all, I know I am.

    Leslie

  • Tuesday
    Tuesday

    Jesus Christ, how can someone start dating the day after his wife dies. Really?

    I guess that's a product of the witness culture that once someone is gone you completely forget about them and that's that. Like dropping your friends no matter how long you've known them once they're disfellowshipped. Great witness quality, horrible human quality.

  • Arthur
    Arthur

    This reminds me of a conversation that I had on the phone with one of the other posters on this forum. He was telling me how he had been raised as a Witness, but had never gotten baptized.

    He told me that when he was living a lifestyle of partying, bar-hopping, and fornicating, his JW family and relatives still had contact with him. But, then, when he became a devout Christian, and began attending a church, they began to shun him. Him and his wife are now shunned by his JW family and relatives. It is senseless.

  • Es
    Es

    Its such crap sounds heaps like what happened to my ex mother in law, an old friend of the family and elder mind you was loosing his wife to cancer, well he and my ex MIL hooked up before she even died, after the funeral ex MIL left my ex FIL and married this elder, who got removed but couldnt figure out why? My ex husband wasnt invited to the wedding and he wasnt even D\F at that stage.

    It makes my blood boil

    es

  • Stealth453
    Stealth453

    My heart goes out to you buddy. As for rationalizing any of it, good luck. It's pretty hard to make sense of lunacy.

  • Sunspot
    Sunspot

    Reminds me of stuff that seems to occur in OUR family----whoops----in thousands of families all over the world. The loyal and obedient (tm) JWs are shining examples on "how to serve the WTS" ....and of COURSE have the Watchtowergod's blessing. They make ME sick.

    Sorry that you have to deal with the riff-raff, NewBoy.....

    hugs,

    Annie

  • JWdaughter
    JWdaughter

    Wow, you are well out of THAT situation. Your ex and her new husband have sure given the children a lesson in 'chrisitan love' haven't they?

    I hope your DD steers clear in self preservation. The longer she tries to find what was never there, the more likely she is to be deluded. Hopefully this situation is like her snooze alarm going off again!

  • zack
    zack

    I cannot blame your friend for wanting to be remarried. Likely, if his wife died of cancer, it may have been an illness which she suffered with

    for many years. I have a friend who recently lost his wife to cancer. On and off, she spent the last eight years of her life in clinics, hospitals, chemo, etc...

    I am sure there was a loss of marital intimacy as they both fought for health and survival. So, I can understand his wanting to remarry and I won't

    throw the first stone, as tacky as his behavior may be. Your ex-wife, on the other hand, is a different issue. I think it is reprehensible to talk to your kids in private and shun them in public.

    Well, I think shunning them at anytime is reprehensible, but she lacks the consistency of her convictions, which smelleth of hypocrisy. At least you know the

    truth now, Newboy. All the best, sir.

  • helncon
    helncon

    New boy i can sympathise with you.

    what the JWs do to families are wrong.

    I will be going through the same thing next weekend but it will be I that will be shunned.

    It was a good stand by you daughter.

    Helen

  • flipper
    flipper

    Newboy, nobody can rationalize that bullshit. Of course, they are collectively NOT in their right minds. Weddings are a great opportunity for them to pull their mean shunning stunts. My husband (xjw) was in tears last night - we were watching the movie Tortilla Soup about a man and his 3 young adult daughters. Mr. flipper misses his 2 daughters so much - we know his 18 year old daughter is getting married in May - haven't gotten an invitation. This daughter and her mom (both can be pretty mean while putting on a soft voiced, innocent face) caused the rest of his family to shun our wedding in Oct. The much nicer 20 yr old daughter won't return his calls lately. This cult never ceases to amaze me. My husband's 22 yr old son was the first to leave when he was 15 - Mr flipper would never have even considered shunning him. Thank god he is close to us - he is a wonderful young man. Your kids are good kids too - I'm so glad they are out of that nuthouse church and you can be there for each other. Flipper

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