I have no problem with my x getting married and that her and her new husband hooked up right after his wife death............The only reason they waited as long as they did was because how it looked to the congergation........and still most of his family didn't come, including his elder brother and his sister........because they didn't think he waited long enough after his wifes death to marry........So they got "shunned" by the JWs and they in turned shunned my son who had no problem with them getting married.........welcome to the Twilight Zone.
X-Wife Got Married Yesterday........Our Son is Shunned Today!
by new boy 33 Replies latest jw experiences
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PoppyR
I sympathise New boy.. and as many have said, most on this board have experienced this kind of double standards.
My own brother gets married in July, and I have been invited (fader) but I cannot take my other half because although I am divorced my ex is playing the martyr and it is not acknowledged to be scriptural. The family do not want to be seen as encouraging me!!
All this while I have to sit on a table with my step brother, who was raised a witness but never baptised and can attend with his live in girlfriend and children.
My initial feeling was to not attend, I am so sick of them not acknowledging my 'new' relationship. But I feel the drip drip approach is best. I love my family and the only way they will turn to me in time of doubt is if I keep contact.
Take comfort in the fact you have your children out!
Poppy
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AK - Jeff
There is something wrong with this picture - No, let me restate. Everything is wrong in this picture!
Jay is asking your X out, at the funeral of his wife? OMG
Then your son in allowed to go to the wedding - but not the celebration of the wedding? What hypocritical thinking.
What a sick bunch. It saddens me really.
Jeff
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Tuesday
I hope I'm speaking for everyone here when I say, after reading every single one of your bethel expiriences with anticipation of the next one, and now reading this expirience.... I will be first in line to get your autobiography should you choose to write one.
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jgnat
Slightly off topic, here. I have a standing rule with my JW hubby for "worldly" weddings. If he won't attend the ceremony, no way is he joining the party. In my opinion, the purpose of the wedding ceremony is to take your vows surrounded by supporters, family and friends. We are there to be witnesses to their commitment to each other. The party afterwards, IMO, is simply window dressing.
The JW's are so screwed up with the whole wedding and funeral thing, with their days of agonizing over what they will attend or shun, it's ridiculous.
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unique1
I am so sorry to hear that your son is being treated that way. It is irrational and unreasonable. There is no way to explain it that makes sense. It only makes sense to JW's an that is all. I am glad your kids see the light and can remove themselves from them. Best Wishes.
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new boy
Today I will be talking to my daughter to find out what happen at the wedding reception yesterday.
What is funny, is a month ago Jay whated to meet my son for lunch to tell him what the "wedding plans" were to be. As in, he and his wife are not invited to the recption. My son said "Jay I hardly knew you. Why is my mother not here telling me this instead of you?"...........to which he said "Well your mother has a hard time with confrontation!"
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loosie
Wow people can be weird.
I would like to think that if I were to die my husband would wait until my body was good and cold before hooking up with someoen else. And if for some strange reason he didn't I would come back to haunt both of them.
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IronClaw
I feel your pain NewBoy.
If your x-friend asked your x-wife for a date at a funeral, I guess there had to be something going on behind the scenes for a time then. Sick bastards. If and when my daughters get married it should prove real interesting, cause you see I don't take much shit from anyone or anybody and don't play games.
Best to you and the kids. The Claw.
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done4good
The x starts dating a guy a week after his wife is in the ground. Talk about rebound.
This type of wierdness is very common in the jws. I heard of several similar stories, (including my ex's mother), that were similar.
j