We had an elder that originally lived in Italy and he was VERY demonstrative, emotional and theatric. He was trying to reach another elder's brain so as to have him side with his opinion, but the elder would not assent. Sooooo, the Italian elder condescendingly dropped to his knees and pleaded with him to reconsider (in a very mocking way). The rest of the BOE at the elder's meeting responded with real irritation over the over the top display and the elder was strongly censured.
Did An Elder or "Brother" or "Sister" Ever Lose It With You???
by minimus 36 Replies latest jw friends
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myelaine
dear minimus...
define mocking, cuz...I'm sure I've been mocked too...I gave all the credit to God for taking my 28 yr. cigarette addiction away over night, and I was told to stop it with the hallelujah's too...that's like mocking my faith isn't it?
love michelle
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BFD
This is kind of embarassing for me. This forum conjers up long lost memories for me. Anyway, after one Sunday meeting (I was about 6 or 7) I was playing with some friends outside the KH and I blurted out "Heil Hitler". Whoa, wrong thing to say in front of Sister xxxxx. She grabbed me by the ear and kicked me in the ass, smacked me in the face and dragged me back into the KH to where my mom was. Sister xxxxx was so enraged, she was yelling and spitting and I think she almost lost her teeth.
When I got home my mom gave me a lesson about who Hitler really was and why what I said was so bad but she really didn't punish me because of the bruises Sister xxxxxx had already left on me.
BFD
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Finally-Free
Once the school overseer™ came to me and gave me a slip for a talk. I looked at the date and handed it back saying I would be on vacation that week and could he give me one on a different date. He lost it, probably because I had cancelled a couple of talks in the past. It took a lot of effort to keep from laughing in his face while he was ranting at me, but I managed to hold it back until he told me he was kicking me off the school as punishment. BOO-F*CKING-HOO!!!
I loved losing "privileges".
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minimus
"abuse vocally, express contempt or ridicule".----mocking......Myelaine, who would ever mock you??
BFD, if that woman hit a little kid now, they'd be in jail! Heil!
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minimus
FF, you're so funny!
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free2think
Yes, a few times. One 'sister' was obssessed with me and my family and I think she saw me as having special 'priviledges' as an elders daughter that her own daughter didn't have, esp as she was a single parent. She used to verbally attack me and made up such awful lies about me, which she spread around. The worst part was that my parents believed her as she was an adult and I was only about 10, even though they asked me and I denied what she said. After a while, about a year or so my parents realised it was all lies when she started saying things about other people. She was a bit sick and tiwisted. Even now when I see her in the street she acts weird with me even tho to my knowledge I never even looked at her strange. With everything else I had to deal with with my health problems I really didn't need psycho sister growing up.
I actually saw her the other day and it gave me great pleasure to ignore her, even though she was staring straight at me. I just thought to myself altohugh I'm fading, I'm free of all that nonsense and I don't have to make nice and pretend to like her anymore. It was so liberating.
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myelaine
dear minimus...
well...other people have mocked my preaching "style"...but it's like this in a way...Exodus 3:11, 20-22...but everyone is like..
so what can I do?
love michelle
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Scully
Yeah, I had a friend through my teens and into my early 20s - she was so competitive with me. Her parents had been JWs forever (both 3rd generation JWs themselves) and in retrospect they all felt my family was inferior to them because we had only been involved with the JWs since the early 70s.
So this one time when she and I were in our late teens decided to take in the District Convention in a different city, about 2 hours drive from home. We agreed to share the expenses for gas and accommodations. Only what she didn't tell me was that she planned to ditch me for the entire 4 days we were there and hook up with some of her other friends that she knew through her well-connected parents. She brought these friends into our room, let them help themselves to the bar fridge and call up room service; she let them sleep in MY bed and told me I had to sleep on the pullout. I told her right off the bat that I was NOT going to pay for her friends' share of the hotel bill, so if she couldn't afford it herself, then she would have to get the friends to square up with her.
Then she proceeded to scream at me in front of her friends and tried to humiliate me in front of them. Anything about me she could find to criticize, she did in the most scathing manner possible. She hated my new clothes, she hated my hairstyle, she hated my new nylons and shoes, she hated my nail polish and how I did my makeup. I'd never seen her so vicious or verbally abusive for as long as I'd known her. It had me dumbfounded to the point where I couldn't even respond... which of course she assumed made her victorious.
I tried to call my parents to let them know what was happening, but they had a hard time believing that such a "nice" girl from such a "good" home (her father was the PO in our congregation) would do such a horrible thing.
I didn't speak to her for the remaining 2 days of the convention or on the trip home. She'd made it clear that she thought that I was the freeloader and owed her big time for the privilege of being in the presence of herself and her friends. She spent the ride home with the invoice for the room - wouldn't let me see it - and then ended up trying to stick me for the bill for her friends so her parents wouldn't find out how much they'd partied. I gave her the amount that we had initially agreed upon, and told her that was all I could afford and all she was entitled to get from me.
By the time I arrived home, my parents had received a call from the PO about how disappointed they were that I had all these strangers up in the hotel room and running up the bill and that if I didn't pay for my extra expenses, there would be a Judicial Committee convened. I couldn't believe that she outright lied and that her parents were going to back her up, without even wanting to know my side of the story. I knew that if there was a JC, it would be my word (the inferior grade 1st generation JW) against hers (the elder's daughter with a 4th generation JW pedigree) and that I didn't stand a chance. It cost me $250 - 2 weeks' pay back then - plus my parents' trust in me, and my reputation in the congregation - because word got around faster than I ever could have imagined.
And that lying b*tch was "terribly hurt" when I didn't ask her to be in my wedding party.
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minimus
WHEW!!!! Scully! I was reading and saying to myself, "WHAT A BITCH!!!!". If only you could've told them all to SHOVE IT!------------- I HATE BULLIES!!!!!!!