ermm, yeah my study yelled at me once for having difficulty with the questions, and i left the room crying. she never apologzed. the woman was a cranky old bird who sent rumours all around the hall about various things she assumed was the fault of my family, but my mom never told her off like she deserved.
another time, when i was fading out of meeting attendance an elder wanted to talk to me about it intimately in front of everyone but i turned away ...he grabbed my arm HARD and pulled me to him. i gave him a dirty look the entire time he was talking to me. such an a-hole.
Did An Elder or "Brother" or "Sister" Ever Lose It With You???
by minimus 36 Replies latest jw friends
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TheKings
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minimus
When someone grabs you like that, it could be viewed as assault and battery.
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myelaine
dear Scully...
why didn't YOUR parents believe/trust that it wasn't you that ran up the bill etc.? did you have a history of such things?
gee...I bet that some church "ladies" don't like the way I dress down either...or the black nail polish
love michelle
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Nulite
Hell yea. More sisters than elders. The Dubs are so unhappy and mean. Just "waitin" for a reason to pop off. The elders are more evil and conniving. They want you to conform to the letter. Even towards fellow elders. Can't count the number of run-ins over the years.
Nulite
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LongHairGal
TheKings:
When I went to the Memorial, I was prepared for anybody who would dare to grab my arm like what happened to you.
I brought a hat-pin with me just in case! Sorry, I didn't get a chance to use it.
LHG
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Scully
why didn't YOUR parents believe/trust that it wasn't you that ran up the bill etc.? did you have a history of such things?
Actually, they DID believe me, and I did not have a history of that sort of behaviour. I was probably one of the most shy, conservative teens in that congregation. But given the pecking order in the congregation, they also knew that if it came to the point of a JC, that the PO would select other elders to support his daughter's accusations. My dad sat down with me and read me the scripture in 1 Corinthians 6:7 and convinced me that it would be better to "let myself be wronged and defrauded" than to Bring Reproach on Jehovah™. I never asked my parents to help me settle the financial end of it, because I knew they couldn't afford it.
In any case, for the lesson I learned about that family, I consider it money well-spent. I may never know who I can trust, but knowing who I definitely CANNOT trust was worth the expense.
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minimus
And the NERVE to says she was "hurt" for not being in your wedding party! Some people are jerks!
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TheKings
the only reason i didn't rip my arm away forcefully and make my exit was because it would have killed my mom (everyone was staring-waiting for me to make a scene). she is already bottom rung in the pecking-order at the hall. people would have 'marked' her. it *was* abusive, i feel sorry for his wife.
and LHG , smart move. did you have any trouble? when i went to the memorial (last year, not this year nor ever again) everyone ignored me except one brother who had a crush on me. he hugged me as soon as he saw me (it was not sexual at all) and it made me feel better. i hope that guy finds his way out...he was a truly kind soul. -
TheKings
"My dad sat down with me and read me the scripture in 1 Corinthians 6:7 and convinced me that it would be better to "let myself be wronged and defrauded" than to Bring Reproach on Jehovah™. " sheep to the slaughter mentality. what would jesus do? he'd walk straight up into their house and turn their money-changing tables over, figuratively speaking.
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lesterd
I was called on the carpet for relating a store about the PO elder racing another elder at a congregational picnic. I told the truth, but he was incensed and called a committee meeting, when the other elders heard what it was about they said that this was blown out of porportion and to drop it, the elder said that if he wasnt a JW he'd punch me in the nose, before the elders in a committee meeting with Jehovahs holy spirit there guilding the whole thing. I said you just abandoned all that so take your best shot, coward.
Then there was another time that I was out in service with an elder and he was bragging about all the money he had just got in a lawsuite. He detailed cars and was hit on a dealers lot, he sued for medical and pain and suffering then sued the Dr because his sex life ended with a "botched surgry". An other brother ask me how he was doing, gues he was going to offer financial aid, I said that he was doinf fine financially. Next thing I know another judical meeting, he called personally with the invitation, really wanted a piece of me. I said fine I'd be there but I wanted his wife there also, he came back with what did his wife have to do with this. I said I wanted to have the committee consider her adultry, now screaming on the phone at me for making such slanderous accusation, I asked, "then who got her pregnant?" When I left that congregation, he read a letter of DA made up all my himself.