by reneeisorym 55 Replies latest jw friends
The only Book and Sales Club in the world that uses hard-shunning on all former employee/volunteers.
No, I don't think you can use the word Christian and Son's O' Bitches in the same line with a straight face.
Sorry you are dealing with such hard line family. I have had some of the same, though in my case my family still 'in' is limited.
Congrats on the wedding though. I would come if it was in my area - just cause I would. Of course my rulebook is less restricting than Jw's nowadays.
Jeff
I sent out wedding invitations last week. Apparently they caused my parents to get a divorce. I got an E-MAIL from my mother saying that she left my dad, is filing for divorce, and that Dad thinks she left because she wants to go to my wedding and he won't let her.
Correction: Your wedding invitations did not cause the problem: the religion is the cause of the problem. It sounds like perhaps this was the final straw for your mother (your father 'refusing to allow her to go to your wedding'). If it were me, I'd phone your dad from a phone booth (so he HAS to talk to you hee-hee) and tell him to grow up and quit acting like a Pharisee. He might hang up on you, but you'll have made your point.
I would come if it was in my area - just cause I would. Of course my rulebook is less restricting than Jw's nowadays.
That's sweet of you but I don't think you could abide by the no alcohol rule .. LOL .. Seriously, the church where I'm having the reception does not allow dancing or alcohol !! (Shocking I know)
Renee
I am sure most of have noticed that some JW's are a hybrid breed or as I call them "turbo dubs". They take the allready extreme idea's of the Borg and then go even farther thinking this will make them look better, more devoted. My mom and most of my family are that way. My parents will not even come to my daughter's spring concert because she goes to a non-denom church funded school. Then they wonder why my daughter does not like them.
They are too ignorant and braindead to realize the damage they are doing.to children who do not even understand all the twisted dynamics in play.
Renee, I hope you have a great wedding despite your family. Who needs all that drama anyway?
Hey, sounds like my kind of church. I would come too just to support you. You seem like such a really sweet person, its a shame that a religion (cult) can drive people to do such hurtful things to their families.
(((((renee)))))
Just wanted to say I'm really sorry that you are dealing with this when you should be enjoying this season of preparation. I hope that you manage to work thru it all in a way that, someday, you'll be glad at how you navigated all the damage. The trials in life show us who we are... and help us truly decide what we want to be.
bebu
Renee:
I'm so sorry that your family is continuing to cause you grief and pain. I hope that you are able to rely on Jesus to give you the strength you need to cope during this stressful time! Remember that he knows exactly what you are going through--he was rejected and shunned too. Maybe you will still get a chance to share his love with your family at some point.
Yup I agree it suck big time, I got hubby to open all mail regarding invites and I got him to just say yes or no as I knew I would be hurt reading comments from my family.
I got letters from one cousin and one sister telling me how I was going against my baptism and so they wouldn't be attending but I didn't read them until I felt strong enough to endure the condemning prattle. Both were like they'd have been there if I wasn't living with him already. I had moved in with him when I realised no one was talking to me anyway. I doubt they'd have come even if I'd stuck it out on my own, living on my own and only having him and my mom talk to me.
Have a wonderful day despite them all - I had a fantastic day and I'm sure you will too.
I'm so sorry about this, Renee. I cannot believe your grandparents were so cruel!! This religion is so screwed up...it really does destroy families.
I was going to be Df'd, a week after my wedding, and my brother's wife's family advised my family not to attend my wedding. Only my mom came, and she was crying her eyes out....my husband's family came, all the way from California. Mind you, they are not JW's...thank god.
Your wedding day will still be YOUR DAY, special and beautiful, because you are the bride. Your family will some day have regrets....I know mine does, surprise, surprise.
All the best to you.
Sorry to hear your having problems when this time in your life should be a happy one. Even though your family are witnesses they should be there to share it with you.
It seems to me your dad is very controlling and that would be why your mom left him. He cant blame himself for his actions so he blamed it on the first thing that came to his mind. Your wedding.
Your grandparents, rather rudely, RSVP,d they are unable to attend. Years down the road no one can say they weren't invited.
