Yes!
In my first cong ther was a "brother" who always played with the children before and after the meetings,he seemed to like my twin boys (then 4 years old) more than the other children, he took them on his lap and tickled them,he would run after them and catch them.The boys liked to play with uncle L.
I didn´t think anything of it but my (now ex-) husband didn´t like it at all.We discussed it at home and I told him how embarrassing it was that my big-mouth husband as the only brother in the cong was making accusations like this, and what would the elders say.....
But he was 100% certain.
He told the boys that they were not allowed to play with uncle L. anymore -They didn´t understand and asked:What do we say to uncle L when he wants to play with us on sunday?
Husband said: just tell him your father doesn´t trust him and that he can come to me for an explanation.
That sunday I was sitting talking with a sister, the children playing outside the hall,husband talking with some brothers,when all of a sudden "uncle L" came over to me and he was MAD...red face, spit flying-he shouted:Do you know what your children just said to me?!?! That they cannot play with me anymore because your husband doesn´t trust me!!!!
I said yes that´s right, but why do you come to me,my husband is standing right behind you so go to the head of my family please.
Husband just stood there waiting for him and when "uncle L" turned to him and shouted WHY CAN I NO LONGER PLAY WITH YOUR CHILDREN....WHAT HAVE I DONE TO YOU????my husband told him:I can see what you realy are and I will not allow you to come close to my boys.If I ever see you close to my boys again I´ll beat the @§++¤ out of you.And never talk to my wife again either,if you have something to say -you come to me.
There were at least 40 people there but nobody said a word.They just looked at uncle L and my husband- (husband had been a sailor for 20 years before becoming a JW -he was strong as a lion and a mean fighter,he tried very hard to be a good JW but in a situation like this he would have loved to have a "relapse")
It was so strange....uncle L went to sit on his place and the meeting started.That was all.
I was worried what the elders would do to us, but NOTHING happened.....a few days later a sister told me that he had to leave his old cong because there had been something with children...he was starting in our cong with a clean slate so to speak,she also told me to keep this info to myself otherwise she would be in trouble.She just wanted to let me know that my husband was right.
There was never a reaction from the elders,nothing at all. Not even the other members of the cong talked to us about it. I was a fairly good dub in those days but this made me wonder,why no reaction at all?Why don´t they warn parents when a man like uncle L comes to a new hall-why would this sister be in trouble if they found out she had told me about him?
Last year my ex husband asked:do you remember "uncle L"?
He´s in prison now- he molested some JW boys and the parents went to the police.The parents are DF´d because they did so.Uncle L is working on reinstatement.
Mathilde