Did You Personally Know of Sex Offenders In The Congregation?

by minimus 59 Replies latest jw friends

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  aSphereisnotaCircle

  Interesting story mathilde, I hope your boys did not suffer any harm. I have a similar story. In my old hall, one of the highly respected elders began studying with a young boy in the congo, who was fatherless. This young bro (young teen) went to the elders to tell them how this elder would take his penis out and ask him to touch it, and would also try to touch his penis. Nobody believed this kid, there wasn't even a JC over the issue, the rest of the elders just blew this kid off. Pretty much everyone in the congo knew the story, but this boy had no status at all, and only a mom to speak up for him, so everyone just ignored him.

  Fast forward a few years later, this elder is arrested for soliciting a minor in a public place. The cops came to his house but he barricaded himself in and waved an inoperative gun in the attempt to get the cops to shoot him. Fortunately the cops were able to collect him with no one getting hurt. I understand he is now a registered sex offender.

  Another story, a young girl in our hall is under the guardianship of her uncle, who the elders know is molesting her. he molested her two older sisters, and as soon as they were old enough they left home and moved in with boyfriends. The elders were trying to "save" this last girl. They didn't want to report the abuse because then the girl would be put into foster care and possibly not be allowed to attend meetings. So they were "working" with uncle to get him to stop. How do I know all the details? I heard it first hand from the elders wife who was studing with the girl. She invited me along one day and told me the situation on the drive over. That whole hour I could not take my eyes off this poor girl, and I could not stop the cognitive disonance in my head. I am ashamed to say I did nothing to help her either, I just told her she had pretty hair.

  I know an elder in southern california who is serving on an elder body that includes a man that raped him as a boy. They grew up together only brother rapists is about 6 years older. Now they serve the congregation together.

  My stepdad is a molester too. He has always remained in good standing with the congo, because if there isn't two witnesses, "it didn't happen, you must forgive, and you must never speak about it to anyone".
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  mathilde

  yes, it makes you feel sick, doesent it?

  I´ll tell another grim true story another time,it´s 01.30 here and I´m off to bed....

  Mathilde
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  Tyrone van leyen

  No, not when I was in. I wasn't priviledged enough, like the elders to know that kind of stuff. But they were there! I found out many years later through kids my age that I knew who had been victims. One is an elder who is still serving and the other two got there get out of jail free card by simply going to other halls. The elders who ruined my life sure had awesome gall to be pointing a finger at me. This also goes to show you, when they want your dirty landry made public, they'll stop at nothing to do it, but when it comes to there own gargage they can keep a secret for aeons. Therfore I say to anyone who thinks not, think again! As I have said before, they use people as scapegoats to take the attention off themselves and there hideous behaviour. Like Blondie, my apologies to any here that were ex elders that were blinded by this theocratic dictatorship.
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  Scully

  Yes.

  He was so savvy, though, that he had everyone convinced that he was the innocent party, and that his accusers were out to get him. It took me a long time to put the pieces of the puzzle together and realize that I really did not imagine what he did to me, and that his two previous DFings coincided with his daughters' "running away from home" (being sent away to protect his reputation) for a very good reason. I believe he started preying on me, 'grooming' me to acquiesce to his touching, when I was about 10 years old, shortly after they moved to our congregation.

  He isn't there anymore, but there is another pervert in that congregation to take his place. I know this because someone I care about dearly confided in me about the unwanted attention of this elderly pervert. It even extended to him explaining to her (a teenager at the time) how to use condoms, WHILE THEY WERE IN THE DOOR TO DOOR WORK. I am dead serious about that. The lack of boundaries is absolutely disgusting.
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  FourMs

  There was one guy in my hall throughout most of my life. He had a bunch of kids and was disfellowshipped off and on. The family always seemed dysfunctional, maybe because he was married a few times, often with women who had kids of their own.

  Anyways, it wasn’t until years later that I worked with his older daughter. She told me how she was raped all her life at home with this guy and so were her other siblings. I was floored! I cannot understand how the elders did nothing but disfellowship him from time to time and allow him back in. How could they not alert the authorities to take those dozen kids from his “care”?

  That just made me sick. These were people we knew all our life, and my parents always told us that those kids were not good association. I don’t think that was fair for them to say that, looking back now. Kids who grow up with that have all kinds of issues that we don’t even know about.

  How horrible to think that BOE’s are welcoming people like him back.

  I also know that my cousin’s husband found out when he was in his 30’s that his dad was being DF’d because he had confessed to molesting many children over the past 30 years. My cousin and her husband divorced because he went off the deep end when this all came out. Never really heard what happened to him after that. Maybe he was flooded with memories of instances of his own…

  FourMs
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  flipper

  Mr. Flipper here again. Mrs. Flipper reminded me to tell JW ex-wifes story. We had been married 18 years and she had repressed memories of her witness stepmothers brothers molesting her from when she was twelve. This all came spewing out when she was in late 30's. Her stepmothers father was an elder who alledgedly knew nothing of what his sons were doing to my ex. When my ex wife confronted her mother finally after all those years about it, her excuse for not doing anything about it was that she was a young mother and oh well! boys will be boys. Even the elders encouraged my ex to get professional counseling for it as she had alot of anger about it and it affected our normal sex life, she had a angry view of sex from that point on. She never got counseling and needless to say it contributed to the marriage going down. She is still an angry J-dub but worships the governing body as God's spokesman. I hope she gets the help she needs some day.
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  stillajwexelder

  Dont get me started minimus - I was personally involved in shepherding severly depressed and suicidle ones because of a real slime ball pedophile in my congo -who by the way is now doing talks and stuff like that
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  J-ex-W

  Dont get me started minimus - I was personally involved in shepherding severly depressed and suicidle ones because of a real slime ball pedophile in my congo -who by the way is now doing talks and stuff like that

  Ewwww----------------I just got the WILLY's from reading that--!!
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  jelcat8224

  yep ...

  one of them, a ministerial servant, used to hug me all the time and would tell everyone, including his wife that if he were my age that I would DEFINITELY be his girlfriend. I always noticed his wife was made to feel very uncomfortable by this, but I just thought it was due to the obvious inappropriateness of the comments. I didn't find out until MUCH later on, when I was in my early teens, and my parents sat me down and told me they had found out he is a registered offender. From that day on I was to NEVER allow him to hug me again.

  another of them, another ministerial servant, used to flirt with me relentlessly. I was in my early teens at this point so it was thought at first that I was the one instigating the behavior. (not that that makes it ok anyway, but in JW land we all know how twisted it is) So one day he cornered me in the library and was telling me how beautiful I am and how my hair is so pretty and how he wished his wife had hair like that. Well, I told my father and let's just say this man regretted EVER having laid eyes on me. My father TORE into him. Later on we find out that he had been accused MORE THAN ONCE of abusing his younger sister, but nothing ever came of it of course since there were not 'two witnesses'.

  there were other cases that I heard about but they were all shrouded in secrecy since no one ever wanted to name names out of fear of it being traced back to them.
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  stillajwexelder

  but they do not get reported because that would bring reproach on Jehovahs name - I am sure there is a scripture about when wrong doing is covered up Jehovah withdraws his spirit