Maybe they should pass a new law in the society, no brother is to be single once he is of 21 years of age.
No outlet for unattractive men in this society...
by Gregor 70 Replies latest jw friends
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cognizant dissident
I know a man who has burns and some minor brain damage and has women friends galore. He invites them out to coffee, takes them places, he is fun to be around. He has women fighting over who is going to marry him. (None, because he can't commit).
There are lots of overweight, unattractive women out there (by media standards). Lots of them are lonely too. Why aren't they out there hooking up with those lonely guys? Or why aren't those lonely men asking them out? Could it be that some of them don't want a woman who is as atttractive as they are, but they want a model/porn queen type that they have been fantasizing about?
I agree with the other poster who said there are lots of not so attractive guys with attractive women out there and vice versa. The missing factor is personality. If you are not physically blessed, are you developing your personality? your social skills? your humanitarian skills? Volunteering was a great suggestion to meet other motivated people. Or have a hobby or a sport that you are passionate about and don't just stay home and keep it to yourself - get out there and share it with others.
Prostitution is a five minute fix to a lifelong problem. Not to mention dangerous and possibly exploitive to both sides. It only makes you lonelier in the long run because you have made only a temporary physical connection and not a emotional/spiritual connection to another person. Plus, the prostitute probably didn't want to have sex, he/she wanted the money. It is purely sexual release and could be had much cheaper and more safely through masturbation.
Cog
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funkyderek
FlyingHighNow:
Well, golly, have you ever taken a look at the men in pornography? They are almost always unattractive, at least in heterosexual porn. I have heard many women comment on this and they wonder why it is so. I say it's because the porn industry wants regular looking or even homely men to think that they too can land a porno queen.
No, that's not the reason. Men in porn need a particular talent, which is far more important than what their face looks like! However, with the notable exception of Ron Jeremy, most male porn stars take care of their appearance. The introduction of Viagra has driven some homelier men out of the porn industry, as "talent" can now be purchased in pill form
And then I think the porn industry doesn't think men will buy porn with men they think are more attractive than themselves.
If that were the case, why would the men in porn be so well-endowed?
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Crumpet
And can I just sayHow beautiful your sandaled feet, O prince's daughter! Your graceful legs are like jewels, the work of a craftsman's hands.
Ron Jeremy to me is soooo hot!!!
Bring them on - I'm game!But they are 5'3', 290 lbs., bald at 35 and their personal interests are grounded in 3 Stooges movies and Star Trek reruns.
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FlyingHighNow
If that were the case, why would the men in porn be so well-endowed?
I have to admit, I have have almost no experience with films and have seen only a few pictures. I know some men think being well endowed is important, where as women are generally happy with average and less if they love a man. Big ones are symbolic to men. We women can be scared by monsters. Most of us women aren't impressed by hard core porn films. They are not produced to be appealing to women. Most of us find the soft core Showtime stuff laughable and the hard core demeaning and digusting.
Give us personality, confidence, genuinely be interested is women as people. Learn how to give a knock your socks off kiss. Have clean teeth and breath. Comb your hair. Get some charm. We don't think you have to look like Johnny Depp or George Clooney. nothing against them, I like them.
I am not tall or thin. Andy is. He's handsome, too. I guess the personality thing can go in reverse.
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jgnat
No outlet for unattractive men other than unattractive women! Cognizent dissident has pointed this out nicely. The trick is to have means for them to meet each other. I don't think a one-night stand would help the poor man with intimacy and loneliness. In fact, it might compound his isolation. Our consumer-driven society has a solution. There's dating sites and matchmaking services.
As for why do male porn stars need to be well-endowed? Face it, porn is produced largely for men. What do men like to see? Large breasts and large erections.
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found-my-way
I know some men think being well endowed is important, where as women are generally happy with average and less if they love a man. Big ones are symbolic to men. We women can be scared by monsters. Most of us women aren't impressed by hard core porn films. They are not produced to be appealing to women.
Give us personality, confidence, genuinely be interested is women as people. Learn how to give a knock your socks off kiss. Have clean teeth and breath. Comb your hair. Get some charm. We don't think you have to look like Johnny Depp or George Clooney.
I totally agree 100%.
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Xena
There are lots of overweight, unattractive women out there (by media standards). Lots of them are lonely too. Why aren't they out there hooking up with those lonely guys? Or why aren't those lonely men asking them out? Could it be that some of them don't want a woman who is as atttractive as they are, but they want a model/porn queen type that they have been fantasizing about?
I get really tired of hearing men cry about how women don't want nice guys when conversely they refuse to give the time of day to any woman that isn't considered "hot" by their friends.
I agree with the other poster who said there are lots of not so attractive guys with attractive women out there and vice versa. The missing factor is personality. If you are not physically blessed, are you developing your personality? your social skills? your humanitarian skills? Volunteering was a great suggestion to meet other motivated people. Or have a hobby or a sport that you are passionate about and don't just stay home and keep it to yourself - get out there and share it with others.
Prostitution is a five minute fix to a lifelong problem. Not to mention dangerous and possibly exploitive to both sides. It only makes you lonelier in the long run because you have made only a temporary physical connection and not a emotional/spiritual connection to another person. Plus, the prostitute probably didn't want to have sex, he/she wanted the money. It is purely sexual release and could be had much cheaper and more safely through masturbation.
Couldn't have said it better.
Regarding men in porn, I think traditionally porn has been geared more toward men then women. Nowdays though women are taking a greater interest so I imagine that will influence the type of men cast in them to a degree. Haven't watched much porn lately though so I'm just guessing...
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juni
I agree with what cognizant said:
Prostitution is a five minute fix to a lifelong problem. Not to mention dangerous and possibly exploitive to both sides. It only makes you lonelier in the long run because you have made only a temporary physical connection and not a emotional/spiritual connection to another person. Plus, the prostitute probably didn't want to have sex, he/she wanted the money. It is purely sexual release and could be had much cheaper and more safely through masturbation.
Also the other suggestions to get out there and make yourself "available" by volunteering or getting together w/people w/like interests as you.
For someone of any "shape" to complain that they are sooooo ugly they need to turn to a prostitute to fulfill sexual release is just plain lazy in my opinion. It's just a crutch so they don't have to take responsibility, but gain sympathy.
It's the "wham bam thank you ma'm" mentality so they can get back to doing what THEY want to do and then complain about their lot in life w/o considering ways to change it.
Perhaps I'm being harsh here as I don't know your friend, but wouldn't it be beneficial for him to take a closer look at himself and how he might improve his outlook?
Juni
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