by minimus 26 Replies latest jw friends
We have many "lurkers" here who read this board but feel stuck because they might have mixed feelings about leaving their religion, their way of life, their friends and family.
How would YOU help someone to get out? Do you have any helpful suggestions???
We that know better and do nothing are the reasons our friends continue to suffer; taking a stand, being vocal gives those wanting out someone to lean on... shows them they aren't alone. The only reason I decided to come out so strong three months ago was that I found out my 13 year old Nephew was already baptised. A damn slave the the WT and only 13... I coudn't take it that I had been a coward so long knowing the suffering he's sure to endure. I thought, if he see me stand, he'll at least knw there are some that don't agree withmthis and it may plant a seed in his mind when hehas future quesitons. That' the best I can do Mini, by the way... I love reading your opinions; Stevie Wonder can see how brilliant you are.
might have mixed feelings about leaving
Or might have mixed feelings about staying....
I would say, weigh both options carefully.
I would say, try to become inactive and then youll have more time to think about it.
Minimus..If someone wants out,all they have to do is hang out here..There are plenty of suggestions everyday,on how to do it successfully..Hell..We can even help you get back in,once your out....."All Hail the Gumbster!!".....LOL!!...OUTLAW
Just keep reading on here, and on sites like Freeminds and Quotes. They'll soon see they won't be alone and without support if they leave.
they need to really question... do the research themselves... read books, read what ex jws say and really honestly start to question... then they need to decide whether or not it is worth lying to themselves and to those they preach to, just to keep family and friends who would drop them on a dime if they started thinking for themselves... then they will know its time to go!
all we can do is encourage them to open up their minds, and not take the GBs word on everything... if they dont want to be blind, they will figure their way out
the infamous one
Build a network of non jw friends. When the going gets tough, they are the ones who will be there for you.
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I think that most persons who look at this board intially, do it very cautiously. You have to be careful that no one sees what you were looking at, you have to try to find times when no one could tell that you might be looking at these types of sites. You have to erase whatever you were reading, especially if another family sees where you have been. (You'd get more grief for being caught here than looking at porn!)
The ONLY way to successfully get out is to research the Watchtower, its origins, its false prophecies. You have to be honest and objective to see "truth" of any kind. Once it "clicks", there's no way you can mentally and spiritually stay in the Organization.
Move to another place far away where no one knows you were ever a JW. It worked well for me. If you can't (or think you can't) do that, change your address and get an unlisted phone number, get a different job and don't let any of them know. If you happen to run into a JW acquaintance, tell them you are ill with chronic fatigue syndrome or some other invisible illness, and stay as far away as you can. Otherwise, take the direct approach, and tell them you no longer wish to be considered a JW.
A nice JW grandmother carrying a darling baby just knocked on my door to invite me to the District Convention. I didn't take the tract. Maybe I should have. Anyway, I love meeting a JW face to face like this. She acted extremely sweet and kind. If only she knew she was kind to an "apostate." I am rarely visited by JW's, but since I am retired and at home more often, maybe that will change.
Regards,
SandraC
Moving away, if practical is a great way to start a new life. Now the elders have many publisher's numbers, including cells. Don't give them your personal info if you don't have to. Or else they'll trail you wherever you go.
