How would YOU help someone to get out? Do you have any helpful suggestions???
Help can be given in so many ways. This website and others like it such as H2O which helped me years ago, are immeasurable. Lurkers like NVR eventually come out of the shadows after mulling over the things they read.
One on one help is necessary too. If you have found someone or they have found you, giving of your time to help them untangle the knots of 10, 20, 30 or more years of WT programming is the greatest gift of our time with what we know.
Saying that, I wonder if it makes any sense trying to replace one needy clingy religious philosophy with another is of any benefit at all.
I prefer to be a JW "who has seen the light" to other JW's, pointing out the errors of their belief in an attempt to unlock the persons mind and free will to decide things on their own.
In other words, I become the Jew to the Jew or the Greek to the Greek. I do not try to make the person believe what I believe, even deflecting direct questions as unimportant. What is important is that it is their life and they need to figure out what is valuable to them. If they are going to be Christians or Buddhists, evolutionists, atheist, agnostic or whatever, they need to make that choice on their own.
Help them to see that JW's have no monopoly on truth, in fact most of what they teach is twisted and easily overturned with reasoning from their own bible.
Also, Dubs who start to question are like caged animals being introduced into the wild. I watched once as a big cat was being let back into the wild. He walked out of his cage, sniffed, looked around and then went back in.
That illustrates the fear associated with the leaving the perceived security of a religion which is well illustrated by the cage. We all want freedom, but there is anxiety in making decisions shackled by mind control WT teachings.
People need to be helped out of the thought processes enslaving them and this takes time, patience and, well, good old plain unconditional love!
I wish more people would make a stand that can be a testimony to those in the JW who feel trapped as well.
Those who sneak around and keep to themselves are sparing themselves some pain I agree, but not really helping themselves in the long run or others who are languishing apparently all alone.
Frank75
