JWs and Love towards their families (page 3)

saywhat29

You know I have heard comments like these a many of times.

I rmember when one sister said that she was glad when a family member of hers died, that now "he would have a chance to make it in the new system" or something. Weird, so he's beter off dead? Like Jehovah didn't know he was off smoking crack and doing whatever he wanted (like a smart person... okay 'except for the crack part) so he's going to let him in the new system 'cause he's dead and there will be "resurrection of unrighteous ones!!!one111" Puh-leeze.

Hell, my mother got pissed off one time after one of those talks about the "Youth Praising Jehover" (the brother who gave the talk always said 'Jehover', and I've decided to name my first pet that) and she always gets mad and depressed after those talk since she feels like the worst mother ever. So on the drive home she was in another rage going off about how she woill be okay in the new system without me and my sister, who was about 7 at the time, because Jehovah would take way the pain of losing and that she'd have more kids to replace us like he did with Job. LOLZ!

And you know what else I really don't understand about this attitude? When someone dies its like this JW thing about not grieving- like you aren't suppose to cry or show much feeling because it shows your faith. You are allowed to shed a tear, but you aren't allowed to sob because it somehow shows the lack of faith you have in jehover?

I really never understood that shit and hearing people talk about other people who lost members not being spiritaully strong makes me wanna backhand them all.

eclipse

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saywhat29

Thanks eclipse,

I'm just glad R.F. came up with this thread because you know the stuff is bat sh*tcrazy yet its so common that you think its normal. Like I know when I hear these comments, it catches me off guard, but I then start changing my thinking to fit theirs. Like it makes sense. "Well, yeah if he is dead, then he will make it into the new system" or "Aww, my mom won't even remember me if I'm not in the new SystemZ!! It'll be like I never existeded!!"

trust me, I've seen the pictures of the new system... after a while, I don't give a damn who you are playing with bears and cobras, hanging with people from different ethnicities, and wearing clothes from the 1950's is gonna get old. Like the first 100 years okay, yippee. But after that?

I would run around effin' naked anyways... and then get in trouble so it'd be better if I wasn't there.

amfree

It has always amazed me that they will spend so much time going door to door and talking to strangers, but when I quit going to meetings only ONE person called me to talk about it. I was raised a JW and have many relatives and long time aquaintances (obviously not friends) who are witnesses I had been a full time pioneer. I felt the love-NOT!

sweetums

My teenage son wonders why I feel the need to come to this website and it's hard to explain how having in-laws that are witnesses has impacted my life so negatively. I suppose you do have to live it to know what it feels like. My husband is one of three sons and he and one of his brothers are basically" the living dead" to their parents. The older brother is an elder and the sun rises and sets on him and his children...we have the "worldly children" and heaven above knows how much I hate that term. I am trying to understand the mentality that would reason that dying now before Armageddon would be a "good thing". How can anyone with a heart say something so cruel? To want to have the memory of the children that were given to you as a gift erased forever is unthinkable. What does that reduce you to? An automotron... someone just going through the motions? I beg to be different... I think, I feel, therefore I am... and I don't need someone to tell me how to do it! I so wish they would wake-up to what is real! I pray one day that they will.

Bonnie_Clyde

After spending seven years helping my father take care of my mother who had Alzheimer's disease (right up till a week before her death), my father found out that I was no longer attending meetings. Guess what--I've been totally disherited. Just found out for sure last week!

Wordly Andre

Can anyone tell me why JW's never visit the dead? or is it just my crazy family, seems that all the JW's never go leave flowers at the cemetary or anything, I don't even think that my brothers and sisters know where I burried my dad?

unique1

Welcome Sweetums and Say What. Sorry you guys were given such a hard time. It is so weird to normal people when you tell them your parents/husband/children would rather see you dead than even speak to you now. At least here we can all understand.

flipper

R.F.- What a good subject to talk about! I faded 4 years ago, and in the process I've seen my two witness daughters get married. I wasn't allowed to walk the first daughter down the aisle, but Mrs. Flipper and I attended wedding and reception anyway, staying kind and dignified still giving my daughter and her husband a monetary gift. Second witness daughter got married in May. We went to that too, although because she's more adamant against me not going to meetings, we didn't go to the reception at her request, believe it or not. She thought I would expound my "worldly " views to others. I told her" I'm more respectful than that". But Mrs. Flipper and I got her and husband a nice card and the same monetary gift we gave the first more respectful daughter. I feel if anything maybe I'll teach my daughter that in spite of our differences, it is always good to be humane, civil, decent, and caring. Perhaps it will show her I don't hold a grudge, nor should she. That remains to be seen, but at least Mrs. Flipper and I can rest easy, knowing we did the right thing, Peace out R.F., good luck to you, Mr. Flipper

R.F.

Hello all,

Sorry you all have been through so much with this issue.

Check this out,

I met with an elder today and he was asking what's been wrong because i've made a complete 180 degree turn lately in regards to my activity in the congo. Well as many of you know I lost a brother-in-law tragically 3 weeks ago. I definitely don't want to go into detail but I will just say that given his injuries from the accident, I just hope my sister never finds out the full extent of his injuries and I hope he didn't suffer too long.

But anyway, I told the elder that i've been down over that and he goes on to ask if he took an interest in the Bible. Well he considered himself Christian and accepted Christ and he did. Well the elder said that since he hasn't come into the Truth that it's actually a good thing that it happened now and that he has hope. I couldn't even respond to that. So does that make it less painful that I want him around now?

I can just imagine how Mary and Martha where when Lazarus died, and you can so vividly picture how they came off at Jesus because he didn't get there before he died. Jesus actually started weeping with them.....how come JWs give this notion that weeping shows lack of FAITH on your part?

JWs and Love towards their families

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