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by BlackSwan of Memphis 23 Replies latest jw friends

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  Clam

  Hi BS

  Obviously (as we both know) we stay in touch privately and I always enjoy hearing from you. I can completely relate to what you're saying and good luck to you. I'm sending a love bomb over to you right now.

  Clam
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  outnfree

  BSoM -- You don't have to apologize, sweetie! As someone else mentioned, we are all at different points in our exit (or possible/hoped for/dreamed of exit) from the WT organization. We must all strive to be honest with ourselves and authentic in our dealings with others. It seems to me your profile was both. So, blessings to you, my lovely, and see you around SE MI. Love, out
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  LongHairGal

  BlackSwan:

  I know what you mean. Sometimes real life is calling us and we have to move on. But, I say "never say never again" because I quit once and came back.

  At some point I expect I'll stop posting because I'll run out of things to say but I will lurk and post once in a while. Even though things can become boring here for those of us who have been here a while, it is all brand new for certain ones who are just discovering this message board.

  LHG
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  Sassy

  It's been VERY hard not posting here. I check every single Tuesday to see how the vigil is doing and keep you all in my thoughts. I'll lurk A Little, because I know that this where I'll find out how Ian is doing, this is where I'll find out how Out and Sassy are doing. I can't find that out. But once I start posting, my life becomes absorbed with JWism stuff. And I can so easily fall into it all. And for me, that's just really not healthy.

  awwee.. that touched me..

  as you know.. I am not as frequent as I used to be.. although I have popped in here for a post or two a little more lately. I think I come here more to see if old familiar friends have a thread which catches my eye.. or they need support.. and I want to support the vigils too. Everyone was so supportive when my dad was sick.. and so loving when he died. Those are reasons I still come here. But I surely do not read all the threads any more.. and I am guilty of not trying hard to get to know all the newbies.. something I once always did.

  I too have found that spending tooooo much time on xJW boards while enjoyable, can also drag you down.. and as you said almost keep you in that JW mindset.. its a different layer of thinking.. but it is still holding us in some ways to the issues we had in JW life as if we are half still in them.. The past couple years I only pop on sometimes once in three months.. I never stopped caring but I also found I needed a life outside jw mentality thinking and issues.. while we heal together here.. we also hold ourselves captive.

  I still spend a lot of time with SimpleSally and ApagaLaLuz, but our time together is not so much about the dubs but about our lives we live today in the world without being a dub.. and days when we don't even have to think about being one..

  But there will always be a part of me that wants a connection with xdubs.. no one else understands me.. not the same.. There is a guy I am even thinking of dating (my last relationship is over).. he was raised a witness.. (although never baptised).. and I wonder if that will be a help in a relationship.. or a hindrance.. we'll see..

  Any way my friend.. I think your profile was wonderful.. as were your posts here..

  and if you want an additional way to contact me.. send me a pm.. I'll give you my email..