by Bonnie_Clyde 41 Replies latest jw experiences
Problem is they marry young because they want sex, especially the male, it really is a wart on their bum, WTS says no to mastibation, dating just for fun to get to know the person to have a relationship with the opposite sex must be with the view to marraige.
I say an answer to all this and its unscriptual, take up a good sport or hobby or go to colledge, the library then, become an enthusiast of something outside the opposite sex and the borg.
I really don't know who everyone on this board is talking to. Most JWs I have seen are very happy in their marriages.
At home all I ever heard was bickering - non stop!
It was the same for me. Fighting all the time. They're been married for 45 years now and the bickering and fighting still goes on. I can't stand it. In my own marriage we rarely fight or bicker and if we do it's not in front of the kids.
my shrink said a study showed that people in long marriages often attribute the "success" of the marriage to the ability to endure misery. Healthy people cut their losses and get out of a bad situation, unless of course their religion tells them not to!
I really don't know who everyone on this board is talking to. Most JWs I have seen are very happy in their marriages.
That's what I was thinking.
I think out of all the people I knew/know, the majority seemed pretty happy.
And sure maybe they "seemed" happy. But you could apply that same principle to Everyone you know, jw or not.
And sure maybe they "seemed" happy. But you could apply that same principle to Everyone you know, jw or not.
Valid point, it is possible to put up a front regarding your happiness. Thinking about it now, I do know a few JW's who are "happy" in front of their own, but up in arms around me and other friends about their situation. Genuine happiness can most likely never be measured by anyone except by the eye of the beholder.
And that is definately what this organization is about, putting up a front for all to see.
It was the same for me. Fighting all the time. They're been married for 45 years now and the bickering and fighting still goes on. I can't stand it.
Change the 45 to 40, and you're describing my parental units.
The typical JW marriage looks something like this:
My friend (the only JW I deal with that is not a family member), has been married twice and divorced twice. The first wife he married because they were dating (teenagers), the second he married because he "needed to have sex" and she was "theocratic". He was miserable in both.
My two JW brothers have both been married and divorced one brother 3 times and the other 4 times.
The problem I think is, that they get married to have sex, then after the "honeymoon phase" is gone and the true person show's him/herself the marriage does not work.
Just my 2 cents
Me, my oldest sister and 2 brothers (all non-JW's) have been married once and still with the same spouse. My parents have been married for 60 years but they almost can't stand each other, I think they only stay together because it's all they have every known.
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i can honestly say, my parents are very loyal dubs, and have the best relationship i've ever seen. they've been married for almost 40 years and still don't like to be away from each other. my wife and i always listen to their marital advise and try to emulate them.
I've said it before and I'll say it again--we are no better and no worse than any other religion.
True. There are happy marriages in the cult, but no more than in other religions.
Also, it seems that the happy ones are ones where the wife swallows the WTS
doctrine hook-line-and-sinker, and she is happy to be the submissive wife.
This isn't really much of an issue, but JW's are definitely not better off than
the rest of the world in this area.
