by coffee_black 22 Replies latest jw friends
Luckily he doesn't live in the same house as my daughter & the kids...so the sweets thing won't work. He's not allowed in the door. My daughter has a big dog too...and he sounds a large alarm when anyone approaches the house. The court still allows him visitation...but he has no car or driver's license. In spite of that, he has stalked her on numerous occasions.
Coffee
What state is she in????? She has all the documentation to use family court and not only recieve an exparte order of protection, but custody fo her kids. She needs to contact a domestic violence program NOW. Once she has gained custody then flee. If she does not have custody, he can file for custody and the state where she lives can bring her back.
If I can be of any help to you please email me [email protected] I ran a domestic violence shelter for 10 years for The Salvation Army..I still work there, and will help in anyway that I can.
Leslie
What a horror story! Help should be available from several sources.
Our City Attorney has a whole division just to deal with domestic violence, with victim advocates assigned to each case. The Police Department and DA's office also have similar divisions with victim advocates. Has she ever taken him to court when he attacked? Didn't they assign her a victim advocate? She needs to contact those officials where she lives and find out what resources are available. The victim advocates I used to work with helped DV victims with education, shelter, employment, social services -- anything and everything -- to be able to build a life of their own independent of the abuser.
Her attorney should have seen to it that the children's interests were represented as well. A guardian ad litem should be appointed to look out for their interests. As I understand it, this guardian (an attorney to represent the children) is paid for out of public funds.
It is so hard to think rationally when one is in such a situation. But she needs to step back and look at the situation as if she were looking at someone else and their children. Would she not recommend that they get the children and herself and everyone else out of harm's way and start a new life out of the reach of the abuser?
There are websites with escape plans which you should look at.
Praying for their safety,
SandraC
