I Miss My Parents ....

by compound complex 29 Replies latest jw friends

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  compound complex

  Dear Friends Similarly Bereaved,

  I've been here long enough to understand the love/hate relationship we've all had with our moms and dads. For some, forgiving and forgetting sins of omission and commission is not possible. I've been "talking" with others lately about my childhood and, despite the bad and the ugly, there was the good. My parent's love was never in doubt [but they sure had a funny way of showing it at times!].

  To once again paraphrase the words of the estimable Maya Angelou, regardless of the relationship you had with your parents, you will miss them when they are gone. I miss mine - terribly ....

  Love,

  CoCo
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  gumby

  Sorry your feeling down about your parents CC. I still have my mom but she's 83. I figured at her age I wouldn't try to take away her dub religion as she wouldn't have much time for a journey out.

  Gumby
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  mrsjones5

  Yeah I miss my parents now though neither has passed away...yet. I just can't trust them. Maybe I should let them back in my life cuz they're never going to change, but I can.

  Josie
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  BFD

  Sorry Coco. I too miss my dad terribly, he was never a dub. He died in 2001. My mom is stuck in dub-land, haven't seen her now for almost 10 years. She is going to be 76 this year and like Gumby I have no interest in pulling the rug out from under her now. I just accept the fact that she is "loving me" in her own way. It's sad.

  I hope you're feeling better soon.

  BFD
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  compound complex

  You are kind, Gumby ..........

  I understand what you mean re: your mother. I'm developing a like attitude toward my JW loved ones.
  Thank you for your prompt reply - I do feel better! Off to work, smiling cuz of the Gumster! God bless you.

  CoCo

  Edited to add: thanx to the other dear friends who posted after my reply to Mr. Gum. Peace and love to you. I really am off to work - now!
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  misanthropic

  (((((CoCo))))) I'm sorry you're missing your parents.
  

  you will miss them when they are gone. I miss mine - terribly ....

  
  I'm sure I'll miss mine when their gone- even though they drive me crazy.
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  Bumble Bee

  ((((((Co Co))))))

  I miss mine too. I lost my mother when I was 3, and even though I never really knew her, still feel the loss terribly even after all these years. I lost my father in 2002. There is hardly a day that goes by that I don't think about him in some capacity. When he died, I felt like an orphan. But I have to remember that even though they are gone, their love for me will always be here, inside me, a living thing.

  That is what I chose to focus my energy on, the positives, the happy times, the love, the caring and nurturing, and let the negatives go. That in itself is a painful process, but in the end, after that negativity, pain, anger, fear,and yes sometimes hate, is gone, all you are left with is the peace.

  To all those that have lost a parent.

  BB
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  Finally-Free

  I lost my dad in 2001 and my mom 6 months ago. They both drove me crazy, and now I miss them both terribly. There are still times when I start to pick up the phone to call them and share some news, and then I catch myself and remind myself they're dead. I miss calling my mom to tell her what I had for dinner, just to make her jealous, and hearing her call me a swine in response. I feel disengaged from everything. If I died nomorrow, there is really no one who would give a shit. Except for Rocco, of course.

  W
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  unique1

  Same here. Mine aren't really gone, they just will have nothing to do with me. I know they love me and miss me as much as I do them. Hang in there. The way Gumby put it is truly poetic. I can't top that, but I am here for you none the less. Try and have a good weekend.
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  misanthropic

  . There are still times when I start to pick up the phone to call them and share some news, and then I catch myself and remind myself they're dead. I miss calling my mom to tell her what I had for dinner, just to make her jealous, and hearing her call me a swine in response. I feel disengaged from everything.

  
  I haven't had that with my mom in a very long time, because unfortunately they decided awhile back that I was dead in their eyes- long before I decided to DA myself. I can honestly say that I know that I will regret when my father dies that I never had the chance to get to know him as a person because he never allowed me to ever get close to him. That's something I think about al the time now as it is. I wish my parents had never gotten mixed up in this ridiculous cult in the first place and they could have had happy lives instead of letting themselves become coldhearted and bitter.