I Miss My Parents .... (page 2)

lisavegas420

I too miss my parents. But they have informed me that until I get back to the KH, that can't/won't have anything to do with me. That I am dead to them......They also shun my children, and grandchildren, who have NEVER been a JW.

I go back in forth, between being sad/mad at the situation...especially that part where they think I brought it all on myself. To being glad I don't have them presuring me or my family to go back.

Why oh why...cant they just be normal loving grandparents and greatgrandparents.

lisa

Sad emo

Thanks for starting this thread (((CoCo))), I wouldn't have known where to begin.

My dad died in 1995, 9 days before Christmas, my mum died 9 years later in 2005 - 9 days after Christmas.

In spite of the physical, verbal and psychological/emotional abuse by my dad, there's still a bit of me that wants to believe he loved me and because of that I sometimes miss him. My mum, I do know she loved me but was probably too scared to show it. I miss her a lot although I sometimes am angry at her for not protecting me more.

I still have a lot of past to sort through I guess.

startingover

I can certainly relate to the feelings expressed in this thread.

I lost mine at 86 within 3 weeks of each other a little over a year ago. I never ever imagined it would feel like this being an orphan. It's such an empty feeling and I will admit I have tears in my eyes typing this.

About 4 years ago I got into a heavy discussion with my parents about the religion they raised me in. After going back and forth about 607 and my dad never being able to refute anything I showed him, he finally asked me "What am I supposed to do, quit and change my whole life at this age?" Considering that they never treated me badly nor shunned me because I quit, I took that as a kind of admission they might be wrong. That was good enough for me and the subject was dropped never to be brought up again.

One thing that helps me now is pretending they are here again. That allows me to think about the negative things that bugged me and it doesn't hurt as bad.

lisavegas420

dad never being able to refute anything I showed him, he finally asked me "What am I supposed to do, quit and change my whole life at this age?"

I once asked my dad..."but WHAT IF, you are wrong, what if?" he got very angry and said "I can't be wrong...I can't be wrong, if I was wrong, it would mean I wasted 45 years of my life. I can not be wrong"

What could I say to that? It's true....the wasting his life part anyway.

lisa

ex-nj-jw

(((((((((((((((((((((coco)))))))))))))))))))

nj

aquagirl

coco,i feel bad for you..the jws killed my parents for me once,and some day ill have to see them die again...i could be sharing these wonderful last few years of their life w/them,but they are being threatened w/being disfellowshipped{after45 years of being a dub!!!]if they associate w/me...sad..so unnessescary.....

Flowerpetal

I miss my parents too. My dad died in '88 and my mom died in '03. There are so many things I would like to share with them and I can't...so I know how you feel.

nvrgnbk

Who says that we weren't in a cult?

flipper

Hello CoCo, Mr. Flipper here. I'm so sorry you are feeling blue. I'm sure you loved your parents dearly. I know I will feel that way when my parents leave the scene, 82 and 80. Just know you have loving friends on the support ggroup here that care and have unconditional love for you. Not often we get that kind of support! Not even in the Witnesses. Usually they have conditions. You know, gotta hold your Bible at a certain angle , weird stuff like that. Peace to you my friend, have a good weekend, Peace out, Mr. Flipper

compound complex

Dearest Friends,

I returned from work, turned on the PC and couldn't believe my eyes. I am overwhelmed yet not surprised by such a loving response. I was actually feeling sad for the losses others on JWD have recently experienced. Tragic - all tragic. Then, unexpectedly, I thought of Mom and Dad and the chasm that separates us.
What you dear friends have revealed this afternoon tells me that the sharp pain of bereavement may dull over time but never truly disappears. I can relate to virtually every experience you have shared.
On the score of how our former faith creates an unbridgeable gap - figurative death - between us and them, I want to end with a quotation from a very famous book that I put up a few weeks ago. It goes to show that some "believing" parents do question the religious path they have chosen for themselves and their captive children:

Dedicated to the memory of
my Father, who while dying
said to me, "Son, have we
been wrong in our religion?"

You are all dear and I love you,

CoCo

I Miss My Parents ....

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