A Farewell to 'Lost Souls'

by Gill 35 Replies latest jw experiences

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  Open mind

  I did tell them that I DO NOT want them to leave the Watchtower Society. I said I wanted them to stay in it as they were too old to change or understand what had happened to them and that I felt they deserved the Watchtower Society. This completely stumped them and they finally left.

  May I use this line with my parents if that day ever comes?

  The grave looms close for them and I think they're truly better off with their fantasy world security blanket.

  Good job on standing up to them. That must have taken a lot of courage. I know it will for me if/when I confront them.

  Open Mind
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  garybuss

  I kinda think that all of us who leave high control groups of the type that practice retaliation are on a collision course with those group members who are true believers. Parents see defection of their (adult) children as a demerit to them. They want to brag that all their children are "in the truth".
  
  Our leaving the group is a disconfirmation to them and they must discredit us. Typically they will discredit our sources, out motives, and they will attack up personally.
  
  The question for me was: Can I avoid the collision? How much damage did the collision cause? and, Can the collision damage be repaired?
  
  In my case, I initiated the collision by walking into a minefield that I wasn't aware existed. I foolishly thought my relatives were different and they wouldn't reject "ME". Wrong! I'd do it different today. Now I know where the minefield is so I could avoid it. Now I also know what I'd been seeing when I looked at my relatives was a facade and there was aggression and big problems just under the surface. It was kinda like poking an injured wild animal.
  
  
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  watson

  I did say that they had to give me the mags because otherwise they would not know what was in them.

  Awesome!! LOL.
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  OnTheWayOut

  Our leaving the group is a disconfirmation to them and they must discredit us. Typically they will discredit our sources, out motives, and they will attack up personally.

  They learned this from "Mother Borg" so it's no surprise.

  I wish you strength and channel positive coping toward you if that's possible.

  They just might call on you one day soon and ask some questions. Please
  be the better for it and be ready for them to call- but don't lose any sleep waiting.
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  willyloman

  Gill: Very courageous and proactive approach, nice work. Freedom is truly liberating!
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  diamondblue1974

  Sorry to hear of your parents Gill - sadly they allow the book publishing company control them rather than their human and natural instincts.

  Glad you are so philosophical about it all though.

  Keep smiling!

  Gary
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  Dansk

  Gill,

  To be fair, I possibly would have done the same to my children if they had become "apostate" before me! I was a dyed-in-the-wool JW completely under Watchtower's mind control and would also likely have let my children die rather than have a blood transfusion.

  Ye Gods, thank goodness I saw the light!

  I'm saddened that another family has been torn apart because of the org's indoctrination. As you know, I still have a daughter in it and even in my precarious health condition she has totally ignored me and the rest of the family. Watchtower is intrinsically evil - but its foot soldiers are generally ignorant of how they are manipulated. I wouldn't be too hard on your folks. Rather, I would pity them for what they are losing - you, your husband and their grandchildren.

  So glad you stuck to your guns, though, as we cannot allow truth to be trampled over by lies no matter how hurtful it can be personally.

  Love and ((((((((hugs)))))))),

  Ian
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  quietlyleaving

  quietlyleqving - Do you think they will? I think they might miss our 'discussions' and 'counting time'.

  As they pleaded for me to 'go back' to KH I told them squarely that I NEVER will and that I would rather die than ever be a JW again! I think they got the message!

  I'm imagining your parents listening to you with both dread and intrigue and enjoying the stimulation of the discussions you guys have.

  I think that in an unacknowledged corner of their hearts they are proud of you and congratulating themselves that you are their daughter. I certainly would if you were mine.

  I think they'll be back - so be prepared
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  Gill

  Hortensia - I think you are so right that many stay in 'da troof' out of their out and out terror of the inevitable....death. What they do not learn is that death cannont be avoided no matter what any book publishing company promises.

  They never learn that they cannot begin to live and cannot ever be free until they learn to accept our inevitable fate. The day you lose the fear of death is the day you begin to live. Life without the Watchtower, no matter what its ups and downs is just too wonderful to ever give up again!
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  Gill

  Candidlynuts - I used to be afraid of this very 'heartbreaking scenario'....at least many years ago. What I found when they began their abusive accussations was that nothing they said could sway me because I have moved so far away from the Watchtower control that their arguments were like an ant trying to move an elephant.......sad and pathetic.

  I feel sorry for their view of ex witnesses and sorry that they would accuse people who stand at assembly grounds in their own time trying to help so many witnesses trapped in that horrendous cult of being evil and Satanic! How dare they describe the salt of the Earth in such disparaging ways.

  I only feel pity for them. They have a sad Watchtower based existence. How can I remain angry with such 'lost souls'?