If you wish for me to offer my opinion as to what works, I'll submit to you the book of Ray Franz. Nowhere does he display in that book the attitude that you have in your posts, yet this book has singlehandedly been responsible for more people leaving the jw's than any other source. What do you say of his method? Have you read the book?
Also, I'd like to ask if the people in your family complimenting you are witnesses or never involved with witnesses.