Life sometimes can throw some curveballs (page 3)

megsmomma

Hi Dave,

I don't usually ring in on your threads to give my advise....but, I wanted to tell you what I think about this situation.

You can't be scared of life or freeze in the spot you are in now. Take a chance....take MANY chances. That is the only way to start getting back to being YOU. Maybe you will have a great time, maybe you won't......but, it won't hurt. Don't overanalize things....and get out of the past. Make NEW memories in Myrtle beach! That doesn't mean you are putting less value on what you and Amanda went through......

It seems you are gun-shy about life now, and that is not how you want yourself to be, so CHANGE. Trust me, we all have pasts that can haunt us if we let them....Just try not to let them. ((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))) Go have some fun!

Junction-Guy

Thanks Megsmomma, I appreciate your response. One thing I would like to say is that I have taken some very big chances and they nearly destroyed me, along with my marriage.

But yes there are new opportunities coming ahead of me, new places to see and new people to meet.

Im already planning to attend an Exodus Inernational conference next year and plan on doing some networking and meet new people.

jgnat

OK, I'll indulge in one more rather hard-hitting comment then I'll leave you alone. I still fear, Junction-guy, that you are in a rut. Your ex confirms it. Sometimes a jolting statement can help, so here goes.

My husband is chronically unemployed in a province with an unemployment rate of less than 3.4%. http://www.alberta-canada.com/economy/economicResults/albertaLabourForce.cfm

How does he do it? He's very, very picky. He can't work retail hours, it would interfere with the meetings. On the day of the interview, he reschedules. He asks if hours are flexible. All this before he presents his attributes.

The real reason, of course, is his fear of rejection. I strongly suspect the same for you, Junction-Guy. You have gay tendencies but you would never consummate or offer love to a man. You could love a woman but not be intimate, or she would have to be willing to share. Are you sure you aren't safeguarding yourself from everyone?

Junction-Guy

No, not in the least. Like I've said in other posts and topics, I dont feel like I fit in anywhere, except for a few places and circumstances. I try to fit in, but I just dont. I try to naturally seek out places that I fit in, and feel comfortable with.

If I could find what Im looking for here, I would be a much happier person, but it doesnt seem to exist. But like I said earlier things are starting to change and look up for me. Now I have to get offline and contact the Exodus group for some more info on their upcoming conference in Nashville. Myrtle Beach just may have to wait, but that's Ok, I would much rather have a meaningful vacation than just simple amusement.

I may be back later and let you know what I've discovered.

I have enjoyed everyone's comments and appreciate them.

compound complex

Hey JG!

You're sure right about the curveballs. Sorry for the rollercoaster ride. Been there.

Hang in there!

Your friend,

CoCo

nvrgnbk

Jgnat.

I've got to hand it too you.

You nailed that.

All of it.

Well done.

new light

Do yourself a favor. Stop thinking and start drinking. Some people are better off with alcohol-fueled bravado. You are one of them.

megsmomma

Dave.... I can fully understand what you mean about taking chances that can destroy you. Those are not really taking chances...that's being self-destructive. (In my case anyways....I took wreckless chances because I didn't care what happened to me) You have survived the "bad" chances you took and learned from them. Take good chances now.....armed with the knowledge and life experiences behind you.

Lyndi

Junction-Guy

Thanks you all, Well I just got off the phone with the representative from Exodus International. They have an upcoming regional conference in Nashville in September. It does seem a little pricey, but Im gonna give it a shot. The guy on the phone was very friendly and courteous. I did briefly mention that Im a former JW and have spoken at cult conferences, he was amazed and assured me I would have a good time talking with other guys and gals there. You know Im kinda excited about this. Im gonna start trying to plan this.

Dave

Junction-Guy

Once again, thank you Megsmomma.

New Light, I prefer to stay sober. I dont drink now and I dont plan on starting, that's one chance I dont plan on taking.

Life sometimes can throw some curveballs

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