by OnTheWayOut 27 Replies latest jw friends
OTWO - I agree totally, you have to build a non-JW support, build relationships with non-JW's because when your family and friends (JW) turn their back on you, this is what they are banking on. That you will be so lonely that you will come running back.
nj
Hi OTW!
I've seen pretty much the same thing although I am not actually on a "fade" since I attend 90% of the meetings I just think it's all a load of crap.
It's pretty darn unique that a respected JW would actually open up and describe the inner-workings of the cult, almost like an expose; people just find that soooo intriguing. It's very similar to the ex-drunk or drug addict who cheerfully describes the worst aspects of his or her former life to a shocked audience; most people can't even imagine that sort of thing and usually have great respect for someone who is no longer part of it and can describe that sort of unimaginable experiences without shame.
I remember reading the memoirs of an ex-"Moonie" and thinking "My God, what kind of farked-up person gets involved with a group like that?" then my thinking change to gratitude for revealing what actually went on "behind the scenes".
Same thing with your co-workers. Lay it on thick, they will appreciate it and respect you for having escaped.
It's worth noting that they said "and what does your wife think?" do they know that JWs destroy families through the shunning process and they were worrying about this happening?
The way you freely said it shows your determination to free yourself from the clutches of the destructive cult.
The way you freely said it shows your determination to free yourself from the clutches of the destructive cult.
Another person who makes my day. YES.
While I must not openly vote or celebrate holidays, I pretty-much do as I want as far as
the fade goes. Fortunately, I don't want to do alot, because fading is limiting. I am not
willing to burn the bridges and move ahead without my family members, yet. But I am
not going to be constrained by going to most meetings and pretending everything is fine.
I do admire those that stay in to help others. I can't do it. I can't even keep totally silent.
I have to keep getting prodded by members of JWD not to have confrontations with the
elders- which would totally blow the fade I have done.
You people are great today.
I enjoy it so much that I probably say it too much. I used to be the crazy jesusfreak, but now I'm the crazy ex-jesusfreak.
Yep, I'm really big on Anti-witnessing. I don't care if it's a co-worker, a customer, or someone off the street. When the situation presents itself, I make sure the person I'm talking to knows the truth about the j-dub cult.
Years ago, I was talking to a cousin that had been out of the JW's for years. And.. Even though I had not been to a meeting for years, when she called JW's a cult, I felt sick and even a little dizzy. I didn't say anything to her, but I so wished she hadn't said that.
It took a little while longer before I realized and full accepted that she was right. I don't know why I had such a physical reaction to hearing it.
lisa
It took me 3 years post exit before I could denounce the Watchtower as a cult to anyone,I was affected by stockholm syndrome and phobia instilled by the cult.I feared if I spoke against them that 'Jehovah would hand me over to the demons'.
I totally agree that making friends outside of dubdom is the best thing you can do when considering a fade. A support system is a necessity as your current network of "supportive" friends will drop you like hot coals. My work co-workers are great.
