for married people only

by teejay 21 Replies latest jw friends

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  Tina

  Heelo teejay,
  I agree with you here. And I think you're quite normal hun .
  Seriously tho,expecting one's mate to fulfill ALL emotional social needs is unrealistic and puts an onerous burden upon the mate.
  T4 sagely noted that you may want to explore with her why this makes her feel uncomfortable. Might be some issues of trust and security that need some work. I also like what Jan said about jealousy being a form of greed.
  Just speaking from personal experience here,having a peopled life ,married or not,is what contributes to growth and change.
  Having intimate friends is healthy.I don't mean intimate in any sexual sense but in the sense of sharing ideas goals,and that support our life experience. These actually enhance our connection to our partner by helping us develop or strengthen qualities in ourselves. Sense of humor,accepting ourselves,learning to build trust etc.
  Anyway JMO FWIW,regards,Tina

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  teejay

  Thanks all for the responses. Although I may not be 'normal,' at least I know that I'm not the only one who thinks the way I do. I believe it's ridiculous to think that one person could possibly satisfy us conversationally, socially, etc.

  Let me ask this:

  When it comes to adults, who has more friends, men or women? It's been my experience that men tend to have more friends (of both sexes) than women. This general statement applies to people I have known in and out of the organization.