Do you feel out of place, a "misfit", since leaving the org? (page 2)

Good Girl or Bad Girl?

I really understand how you feel! I feel the same exact way and I hate it!

Stealth453

I have been out for almost 30 years, and I still feel that way.

I posted my feelings on the subject on another thread, and was suprised to find that so many of us feel the same way.

Hang in there....you are not alone.

Stealth

freedomfrog you will always miss your family and friends, you are a caring person who like me wishes things didn't have to be this way.But we have to try to move on or if can eat you up thinking about it all. You can come through it and make new friends , it will time though hun. You've got us as 'cyberfriends' to be going on with if you need to talk. x

ness

its been a long time since I've been to meetings or even called myself a witness but i still don't actually fit into the 'real' world. its the upbringing, we're just very different and i don't think it ever really goes away. i mean even now after all the time that has passed and desensitization that I've tried to cultivate i still feel 'guilty' for coming onto a site like this...particularly when some majorly disgruntled ex spins a load of bullshit about the JWs I know I shouldn't care but i still feel compelled to defend them.

honestly, at least once a day i say i wish i were just born Catholic.

brinjen

honestly, at least once a day i say i wish i were just born Catholic

Yup, that's me too. Even now I don't 'feel' the same as everyone else. It's getting better, this board has certainly helped.

Hang in there FreedomFrog!

BTW, welcome to JWD ness!

Junction-Guy

I have felt like a misfit my whole life, with the exception of the last year I lived in Kentucky (1994). I think it is due to the upbringing we had, so many important psychological events in our childhood that we were forced to miss.

I feel like a misfit here in Tennessee, but when I cross that state line into Kentucky I feel at peace and one with myself. Same thing about Texas, I feel so good about myself when I visit there. I always still feel like a misfit in Ohio.

tijkmo

yes

lisavegas420

didn't we talk about this earlier in the week?

anyway..yes..I didn't fit in when I was "in" and don't really feel like I fit in being out. But everyday, I get up and do what I think I'm supposed to do. ...... that's why I'm always trying to read people's thoughts, or watching their expressions.

everyone once in awhile, someone says something like, "lisa you're wonderful, or you're sooo smart..... or I love you...then I feel like I'm doing ok...and I get up...and try to fit in again.

Froggy, you might not feel like you fit in...but you certaintly appear to be fitting in. you are wonderful, smart and I love you...see isn't that better.

lisa

freedomloverr

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/7/113686/1.ashx

oh yeah. I can relate!

Xena

Just a thought...fitting in while nice doesn't have to be our ultimate goal. People in general don't mind if you are different (as long as it's in a nonthreatening way of course), lots of people celebrate their differences.

Something that has helped me when I'm struggling with life is the thought that I'm ultimately responsible for my own happiness, not other people or their perceptions of me. When you wake up each day you can decide how you will feel that day and you can decide how much you will let other peoples thoughts, comments and opinions effect that. It's not always an easy thing to do but, for me anyway, it feels better to think I'm in control of my life and I decide how much or how little I want to fit in with people around me.

Do you feel out of place, a "misfit", since leaving the org?