Is it ok to shun Jehovah's Witnesses?

Missanna

Let me explain myself... for instance when your friends and family keep changing their minds... like my sister she didn't want to talk to me, then we started talking again and now she is back to shunning me. Same with my once best friend we were fine with each other's beliefs then one night she tells me in order to have God's favor she has to shun me. Now she's talking to me again. I'm getting fed up. Do you think it's ok to say "That's it! i'm turning the tables on you, in order for me to be happy i'm shunning you?" Is that ridiculously hypocritical?

under_believer

For my part, shunning would be lowering myself to their level. You must make your own decision, though.

Little Drummer Boy

Maybe they need a taste of their own medicine. See how they like being treated like dirt on your shoe for once. It's worth a try.

Edited to say this is Exwitless. I'm borrowing LDB's laptop and I forgot he was logged in. OK, I'm off to bed!

FreeGirl2006

If that is what you have to do to protect yourself from your family & former friends, than go for it. That is the stance I have taken to keep from being bruised and battered emotionally by wishy-washy people.

Spectre

I'd make a joke out of it the next time the talk to you and say, "oh good, you're not shunning me this week..."

Missanna

you see i don't want to lower myself to their childish shunning but it would be so nice to rub it in their face ya know? I like your idea Spectre too. i might have to try that. lol

Finally-Free

In a situation like this it isn't a question of "lowering yourself to their level". Why should you have to tolerate their emotional yoyo-ing around? For the sake of your own sanity and emotional wellbeing, let them make the decision to shun you, but you hold them to it. As long as you are willing to accept whatever emotional crumbs they toss you they'll keep doing it according to their own whims. They'll continue to keep hurting you for your entire life if you let them.

Make them choose, once for all time. Make them understand that if they choose to shun you, there is no turning back. It's not a question of trying to hurt them, it's a question of whether or not they will be allowed to hurt you repeatedly.

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cognizant dissident

Yeah, you could just call them on it and say something like, "hmmm, let's see, last month you were shunning me, then you weren't for a few weeks, now you are again. Do you think you could fill me in on the shunning schedule so I can mark it on my calendar? It's really hard to keep up with it, otherwise.

Cog

AudeSapere

I like spectre's idea, too!!

You could keep the joke running, Call them up and ask: Are you shunning me? or just been too busy to call? Let's do lunch today - You may have to start shunning me again on the weekend.

Let them see how silly it really is. If they seem offended, maybe you could actually have a conversation about the illogical rationale of the process.

Damn Cult. (Who was the poster that closed his posts with: Cults Suck. ?? A canadian poster, I think.)

-Aude.

sweetstuff

I say, tit for tat. They wanna shun you, why should you "turn the other cheek" and post a kick me sign on your hiney? If they can't be consistent and accept you, love you for who you are, they aren't worthy of your love and respect in return. Not saying to tell them off, just I wouldnt suggest making yourself too available for their emotional abuse either. They are trying to punish you by withholding their love after all.

Is it ok to shun Jehovah's Witnesses?

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