Is it ok to shun Jehovah's Witnesses?

by Missanna 26 Replies latest jw friends

  • WTWizard
    WTWizard

    It's all about practical reasoning. What do you have to gain from association with the Witlesses? Chances are, all they are going to do is hound you into going back to a stagnant life, and they want you to keep going to all those afternoon- and evening-wasting meetings instead of getting on with your life. And there are those rules that you have to obey that further hold you back. Any association with them is going to drag you back into that, since they are programmed to build the cult at any cost.

    Even if you are not disfellowshipped, continuing to associate with the Witlesses is going to bind you to their stagnation trap. All they want out of you is to get you to go to the meetings. Given that, you are supposed to progress to rejoining the Theocraptic Misery "School(??)" and give talks that reinforce erroneous beliefs that you once held. Then they are going to focus on getting service out of you. All the while, the original reason why you become inactive is still going to be there. You will only get sucked into stagnation by continuing to associate with Witlesses since they are going to hound you and report any "violations" to the hounders for further hounding.

    Ethics aside, I see no reason not to shun the Witlesses. The association is not creating any value whatsoever, and they are trying to get you to destroy value. And that's reason enough to shun them. With the exception, of course, of family members to which you feel any desire to continue associating with.

  • Gopher
    Gopher

    One reason to leave the JW religion is to leave this kind of nonsense behind. I'm happy to have a few ex-JW and never-been- JW friends who appreciate me for what I am, and don't play these kind of games.

    It isn't hypocritical or even "shunning" them to simply choose different friends. It's just that sometimes people outgrow their old relationships.

  • dobbie
    dobbie

    Personally i feel that it is not in any way lowering yourself to their level! Its not a case of shunning them, its a case of trying to on move on with your life. Personally if i tried to talk with them and got ignored all the time it would make me feel like dog crap and i'd be an emotional wreck. There is ONE jw who has spoken to me since i left and i conversed back, but i have had this with my sis in law, first she said she'd speak, then it was only away from everyone but not in front of them (which i found harder than outright shunning cos you never know where you are), now its total shunning.

    Do whatever you feel you can cope with right now, just leave them to make the first move (if they will ), and just look after yourself, make new friends. Ask yourself if you can keep putting up with being spoken to when they feel like it and ignored the rest of the time, hardly respectful is it?If you still want some contact with your family/friends was it your sister don't contact them but wait until they do, if you want to say hi then do that and leave it at that. For me personally i have to see several jws most days and being treated like dirt is not an option for me anymore, if they just said hi i'd say it back, but i'm not going to do it first as they blank me so whats the point and one reason i left was so i couldn't be made to feel worthless anymore so i won't let them.

  • Hermano
    Hermano

    First, Missanna, I love the new avatar. And the previous one.

    I would go with the humor first.

  • eclipse
    eclipse
    "oh good, you're not shunning me this week..."

  • nvrgnbk
    nvrgnbk

    Like my Hermanazo said, humor is the best way to coat something hard to say.

  • erandir
    erandir

    Is it ok to shun JWs?

    Only the extra pissy ones.

  • tim hooper
    tim hooper
    For my part, shunning would be lowering myself to their level. You must make your own decision, though.

    I concur. I really can't be bothered playing them at their own, or anyone elses games, games. Whenever I go to see my JW mum, and she has her friends there, I'll make a point of speaking to everyone of them and asking how they're doing. I'm playing by my own rules. tim

  • KW13
    KW13

    Personally i wouldnt but thats your choice, at least do it for a real reason - the majority of witnesses dont know why they are doing it.

  • Dragonlady76
    Dragonlady76

    I would not lower myself to their level.

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