Glad to hear you got joint custody. I had to suffer with less than ideal circumstances almost 20 years ago when my JW wife went for the divorce. It all turned out OK with the kids as they figured out that Dad was right in less than two years. I even managed to keep all my pension, too. When her lawyer asked for 1/2 of my pension during a joint conference, I looked her right in the eye and said," retirement is over 20 years away and I might need all that pension to support myself, but you don't need it because Armageddon is just around the corner". She turned to her lawyer and told her, "let him keep it all, I'll never need it".