by restrangled 37 Replies latest jw friends
For those of you who had bad experiences, ie:, chased, and threatened etc.
How horrible, I don't know if I could ever trust anyone again. Thanks for sharing your stories.
It's so hard to know what to do especially in this day and age.
The line between being a fellow human feeling and protecting yourself seems to be very thin.
r.
Misanthropic....how horrible to give out more than you expected.....its kind of nausiating!
(By they way I have not gotten to your pm yet....give me a day or two....)
I can't imagine the horror of giving money out you didn't want to lose.
I would feel pretty jaded.
r.
Last time I gave blood, I broke all the rules: I didn't drink enough water, forgot to eat lunch and had lots of coffee. I paid for it later. I was okay for the drive home, about an hour, but when I got to the store (a Walgreens of all places) near my home I could tell something was not right. I parked the car in the parking lot and walked into the store... just in time to pass out. I mean, out like a light! Fell into a display of Easter decorations... lol
I was only out for a few moments, but in that time, not one person came over to assist me except for one very nervous lady with a young girl. She was sitting beside me when I came to. I told her I had given blood that day and had fainted, she helped me to the pharmacy area where there is seating and asked the pharmacist to help me. He got me a bottle of Pedialite and sat with me until I came around.
People have become so afraid to help anyone for so many reasons, real or imagined, that in a store full of people, only one person had the courage to offer assistance. I am so very glad that she did as I was completely helpless at the time.
Jeannie
Restr,
I'm glad you had such a positive experience.
I saw a guy (my dad's age, tugged at my heartstrings) out in front of the supermarket with a sign asking for help as I drove in...
I was thinking about him in there and got the most high calorie food I could find (heavy cheese-bread) to give him.
When I went to hand it to him he gave me a look and said "what do I want that for?"
Jerk.
Also, a guy was asking for change in front of Safeway and I didn't have any so I said, "Well, I can buy you something"
He asked for Steele Reserve (ok...) but I got it for him all the same.
When I came out he wasn't there. Sigh.
I had that 40 in my fridge forever- no one wanted to drink it! lol!
Then the night I had my first date with my now fiance he asked for a beer and it was all I had... So HE had it. Awww...
AND on our first kiss, he kicked it over with his leg... I still have the stains on my camping mat.
:)
-K
p.s. I still help out those needing change n stuff. I usually will ask if they want anything at the store.
Kudra... lol at the 40. Yeah, there are those. Ususally, I'll just ask, "Have you eaten today?" If the answer is 'no' I'll offer to buy them some food. I once paid for a hotel room for a mom and her children... They had left their home that day for obvious reasons, (woman looked all beat up). I tried to get them into the shelter but the shelter could not take them until the next day. With temps dipping into the high 30's, I couldn't bear to imagine them on the street. Dropped them off at the hotel, went to Safeway and bought a bag of food and some Tylenol and took it back to the hotel for them. The shelter was able to take them the next day.
There are a lot of bums out there who just may never get it together for a variety of reasons; addiction, mental instability, mood disorders, just plain lazy... On the other hand, there are a lot of good folks who run into a very bad spat of luck. I've been there. I hope I never get so disillusioned that I stop caring, though, I know many have.
J
Jeanniebeanz-
You are a GOOD person.
:)
-K
I once had a lot of extra clothes and donated them to a large family with many children that obviously needed them. Some people truly need help some pretend that they do to live without working.
you're right, Restrangled. It's why I quit donating to MADD, for instance. I just donate to local organizations where I can see the results. And I like being a secret friend to a couple of little kids whose mothers are single, working, struggling. I like to mail them little surprises I know their mothers can't afford.
Hortensia,....that is really nice!
It is so hard to know where to draw the line.....
If they are in the street with a sign..."Will work for food" ...I don't buy it.
If I walk past some one who isn't asking for help but looks as if they need it...thats when I will approach.
r.
restrangled...
nice job.
Always help strangers unless you have reason to believe they might hurt you or your family...
What you did was great!
The Oracle
