How do you react.....

by restrangled 37 Replies latest jw friends

  • RisingEagle
    RisingEagle

    It's nice to know there are people in this world that still have the capability to allow themselves to care. Jeanniebeanz telling about helping the abused mother and her children was most heartwarming. Unfortunately, in the area in which we live it has become apparent that more and more of the folks seeking help are using the money to get high or drunk.

    Some examples: The man trying to make his way across a busy intersection on crutches while pulling an overnight bag that he repeatedly dropped. He couldn't quite seem to get the hang of crutch-bag pull-hobble. By the time he was crossing in front of the last two car lengths both cars had their windows open and were handing the man cash. He finally made his way across the street and into the parking lot of a restaurant. Miracle of miracles, he straightened up, peeled the velcro attached soft cast off his leg, tucked the whole rig under his arm and went into the restaurant. I was glad that the people in the cars that had given him money had gone through the intersection and didn't see his ruse. He managed to only jade the 25 or so cars that were still waiting on the lights.

    Right after we were married my wife called me crying after her lunch hour. She had gone through Burger King and while waiting to place her order was approached by a homeless man asking for money. She didn't give him any but felt enough to buy him a combo meal. She went back through the parking lot, rolled down her window and handed the man the bag of food. He took one look at it and said, "I told you I wanted money you f&&&ing &itch!" She was frieked out enough to start rolling up the window but he still managed to throw some of the food back at her.

    Just last week we were at another intersection and there was a man with a 'please help' sign. My wife took one look at him and started digging into her purse for money. I was quite taken aback by her actions because of her experience many years ago. When I looked at her with a why-would-you-do-that expression she told me to really look at him. When I did I saw that he was shaking like he had parkinson's. She said, "You can't fake that." As a nurse, she would know. It made me happy that she still felt that twinge of compassion and embarassed at myself because had she not been there, I wouldn't have given him more than a cursory glance.

  • tribalgirl
    tribalgirl

    I generally don't give money, but if I can help in other ways, I will.

    I remember one time when I was living in Phoenix to attend a college for massage therapy, I was sitting in a Pizza Hut with a medium pepperoni pizza all to myself and this guy walked up to my booth and just sat down across from me. It scared the hell out of me until he said "I am really, really hungry. Can you spare a slice of pizza?". I realized he was a homeless person and all I would have had to do was start yelling or something to get rid of him, but I couldn't. I let him sit with me and eat over half the pizza all by himself. We talked and I felt really sorry for the guy. I didn't give him money, but I gave him the remaining 2 slices of pizza before I left. It freaks me out to live in a large city, that's why I live out in the boonies.

  • LoverOfTruth
    LoverOfTruth

    You did the right thing by following your instincts.

  • LoverOfTruth
    LoverOfTruth

    Several years ago I learned the hard way to be careful how I approach someone in need. I tried to give money to a homeless, crazy lady and she began swearing at me. I didn't realize I had hurt her Pride. I felt daunted for awhile but I got over it.

    I still come across numerous opportunities to help others. I just do it differently. As an Example, one morning while having Breakfast at a Fast Food Restaurant with my Husband, an old unkempt lady walked in. She went up to the counter and ordered a cup of water, then sat down alone in a booth. I couldn't take my eyes off her or ignore urge inside my gut to do something. I didn't say a word to my husband but he suspected I was up to something because I started digging in my purse. I found several loose one dollar bills and walked over to this lady. Lying, I said "Excuse me but I found these dollars here on the floor beside your booth; they must be yours" ~ I didn't give her an opportunity to say no so she said "Oh Thank You and Bless You!"

    I never give to those who stand along the road begging saying they'll work for Food or whatever; they're probably making more money than I do (tax free at that) but there's never a shortage of people who really need help. We only need to open our eyes; they're all around us.

  • Anti-Christ
    Anti-Christ

    I help people once and a wile but one time in Montreal I was going to an Irish pub and on the way there was this guy beating on this woman, he was holding her against a wall and hitting her in the stomach with is knee and he was hitting her in the face. Nobody was doing anything, people were just passing by and ignoring the whole thing, so me with my superman complex, I get right in this guy's face and I tell him to let go of her, well of course, he tells me to F off I tell him I'll F off if he lets go of the her. After a few minutes, some of my friends who were just a few feet a way notice what was going on and came to help. Somebody call the cops and the guy started to run, they caught him. I found out later the girl was a prostitute and he was her pimp. I don't really care who was what, all I care about is that I help somebody with out judgement.

  • journey-on
    journey-on

    My mother was raised during The Depression. She always gave a little to panhandlers and street beggars.

    One time I told her something like "they need to get a job" and she told me the story of how so many men

    during the Depression wanted to work but just couldn't find it for one reason or another and everyone pulled

    together and helped everybody else. She was never able to get that experience out of her mind, and even

    though she was a dyed in the wool JW, she always reached into her pocket and gave them a little something.

    I learned to be a little bit more compassionate by her example.

  • primitivegenius
    primitivegenius

    got approached outside of a grocery store........... tried to ignore the person...... but the wife dosent catch on fast enough....... he was broke in a bad way and needed to feed his children. we had 8 dollars to our name that day........ she made him swear he would buy some chicken right then. woulda been smarter for us to buy it and give it to him but we had to be somewhere.

    people with the signs...... i never give to them. a friend of mine saw a family in an old station wagon and they had those signs.... will work for food. so he being the person he was went to go talk to them. guy put on the hard times act and wanted to work but couldnt hold down a job due to some sickness. my friend said he would buy them some food and then they could come out to his house and he would put them to work for some spending money............... they took the food and went to his house..............

    he was gonna get them to mow the lawn and clean up around his place........ the guy had a couple of his boys make a couple passes with the lawn mower then they left.

    my friend had 200 dollars waiting for them, and when he realized they left early he even gave them the benefit of the doubt that maybe dad got sick......... saw them at the same walmart the next day......... told them they could come to his house and finish up and he would give them some money for it............ they passed, he kept his money.

    now myself i try and give to the lions or to school sports things but i gotta belive someone before ill give them any of my hard earned money.

  • oompa
    oompa

    I always offer to assist in a respectful, friendly manner, because some can resent even being asked, but I have never seen it. However, I also saw a big guy beating up a smaller guy and the smaller guy was thrown to the asphalt and being punched and I hesitated, cause the guy was big and who knows if he has a weapon. But the guy started yelling help help and so started across the parking lot yelling really loud and thank goodness a business next to the parking lot just open their door and heard me and two or thre guys came out to help....so what did it get me? A court subpeona to testify in a city five hours away from my home!!!!!!! It dragged out for over a year and I had to be there as the STAR witness....oompa

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