zamora251978:
First of all I want to thank you with all my heart for doing everything for the ceremony.
Well, not all her heart apparently.
It really means a lot to me.
But not as much as what "Brother L*****" thinks.
I talked to R**** and A***** about you and the kids being able to go to the wedding. I told them how I felt and what I thought. They said that they talked to el brother l***** and he said that you're only allowed to go to the ceremony.
This is passing the blame. It is your sister's choice whether to invite you to her wedding or not. Whoever "Brother L*****" is, he's not in a position to "allow" you to do anything.
I feel really bad and I don't know what to do cuz I know that you said you won't go to the ceremony if you can't go to the reception.
It's hard not to know what to do when there are only two simple options: invite you or uninvite you.
I just want you and the kids to know that I love yall with all my heart .
One would think that would make the decision easier.
this doesn't mean i am going to stop talking to you.
How big of her.
i love you and the kids and i always will.
Yes, yes, with all her heart. Just not enough to invite you to her wedding.
just write me back when you can. please don't call me because i don't want to cry anymore . love you
It's obviously greatly upset your sister, and at least she is conflicted. There's some hope in that she hasn't come out and said that you're not invited, it just seems she doesn't have the courage to do what she knows is right rather than obey some power-hungry little turd.
I think I would reply asking her to clarify if you are invited or not and remind her that it's her decision. I would make her say exactly what she has chosen - and make no mistake, it is her choice. Whether to go or not if you're demoted to second-class guest is a tricky one. Don't rule it out but make sure she knows how disappointed you are with her moral cowardice.