fade, fade, fade, fade, fade, fade, fade.................drop out (page 3)

blondie

I interpret fading as just doing that dropping out. You don't have to still go to meetings and turn in time. Just stop going and be inactive. After a brief flurry of "caring" you will be ignored. Some zealous jws may avoid you but don't let them. Just smile and shake their hand saying how glad you are to see them.

megsmomma

Hey Oompa....I did not know that you were from Carolina! I am actually from ALL OVER the place..born in Ohio, and moved around over 75 times due to my step-dad's land leasing job. My hubby though is from Fayettville. He has been away for 15 years and we just moved here in June. He is so glad to be home! We are in Fuquay-Varina....a little town south of Raleigh. He is a MAJOR Tar-Heel fan....Do you like BB?

SnakesInTheTower

welcome baby1971

sorry..your first post is lost in the shuffle...hopefully some others will notice a newbie among us...

WELCOME THE NEWBIE....

Snakes ()

OnTheWayOut

I have actually tried to reply on this thread 3 times, but kept losing my connection,
then I didn't come back for awhile. Here's to #4.

why not try the drop out and just STOP?

That's an excellent fade for many. I was afraid to do that, as I wanted to minimize the
inquisition. In the long run, it probably would have worked out the same instead of the
8 month fade from elder to no service and no meetings. The thing is, I didn't know how
it might work out, so safe was better than sorry. Still, if you are out of sight and avoid
any group of 2 elders trying to call on you, the instant fade could be the best for many.

She said "We all go through changes in life."

What's sad, she means that you are going through a rebel stage and may come back to
God and the WT.

In reality, you WERE going through a JW stage in life, and changed for the better to a
better life.

I will be posting details of my sex life this past month in this thread!!!!

Please post a warning so I can avoid that.

dawg

magic, I did the same fade becasue my mother and dad... then my nephew was baptised at 13.. I had to take a stand then,

truthsearcher

Please post a warning so I can avoid that.

My feelings exactly OTWO!

Hey Newbie Baby! Welcome to JWD and wow, what a story about the stripper accusation. Where do these boys think this stuff up? Maybe you should feel a little bit flattered (like how I felt when I recently caught a 19 year old male checking out my anatomy. Then I felt, GOOD GRIEF! GET A LIFE! And then I saw the humour in the whole situation). Hoping you can or have moved to that last stage too, and look forward to reading more of your posts.

mathilde

Hello Baby 1971-

Welcome

Such fools to cal you a stripper....

I hope that some day you´ll feel that they realy did you a favor....you are free now,they are not

Mathilde

The Oracle

Hi Baby1971,

Welcome to the board.

Glad you got out - however it happened. For many it is a long and painful process.

Peace to you!

The Oracle

BurnTheShips

I'll tell you what Ooompa, certain fades can be a cold STOP if the circumstances are right.
As for me, we got pregnant and I used that as an excuse to turn in my MS privs 5 months into the pregnancy.
Then, we move to the end of town and try our best to disappear off of the map!
We've had to deal with a few elder calls etc but this year I only had to attend once in March after the baby was born (I felt it decent to let the bros in the congo meet the baby) and the memorial short afterwards to mollify my wife (she is following me out). Very gratifying!

However, I expect the "knock of death" sometime in the future, even here at the new place. But at least we will be detoxed and strengthened enough to face them squarely!

Burn

OnTheWayOut

BurnTheShips, I expect the knock or text message or email or phone call from them.
It doesn't have to be a knock "of death." Just say, NO THANKS. No discussions
beyond that. That's my plan.

The funniest thing- they should have made the call months ago, so their delay will allow them to
make a half-assed attempt and then forget about me. They would rather remember
that I rejected their efforts than face the fact that their efforts were too little, too late.
I hope that happens for you.

fade, fade, fade, fade, fade, fade, fade.................drop out

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