by inactive? 252 Replies latest watchtower beliefs
To Inactive? :
The Trevor/Linda situation was a cruel hoax carried out over a period of months and years on this board, and it came to a head about 3 weeks ago. So people here are extra cautious when new posters come on with an unusual JW/personal type of story.
I was saying we are here to help first, and if any poster turns out to be phony we'll deal with it later. (Only a small minority of posters turn out to be phony.)
So then all that talk from the elders at the beginning where they said 'we know you raised your daughter right' 'you cannot blame yourself' and my personal fave; 'Jehovah is a perfect father and one of his children(satan) left the truth'... all that was a bunch of hoooie balony?
I for one am saying...
WE NEED MORE DETAILS.
Something is not adding up here.
Please don't be offended or take it personally.
JW's toss aside good people at the slightest hint of a trouble. That's because they're a performance-based organization, where "image" is more important than actual love and kindness.
I know because I was tossed out of the organization on false charges. They couldn't pin anything on me because it was lies and exaggerations being told about me. But I was DF'd because I didn't show a "repentant" attitude in the JC meeting. Of course, I didn't really have anything to repent over. (I didn't break out in a show of crocodile tears, pleading to stay in the cong.)
It was only after I got out from the middle of the trees and stepped outside, then I took an objective look at the organization I was once part of. I understand why JW's believe the way they do, but now having seen both sides I choose not to go back because I don't agree with an organization that preaches love and compassion towards "weak ones" but in reality practices that so infrequently.
More details, I gave all details,,i am racking my brain trying to figure out what you say I left out. In the meantime, I have gotten some good advice here, at least it made me feel better and less confused, and I am still looking forward to more. So far I see I have to do something more, I cannot let this lie, and I have to figure out what Jehovah, not the society, wants me to do. I also have seen many postings in this web site that I am not alone in questionable handlings by elders.
JW's toss aside good people at the slightest hint of a trouble. That's because they're a performance-based organization, where "image" is more important than actual love and kindness.
That is sooo true. They aptly fulfill the Scripture in Ecclesiastes about foolishness being put in high places. That organization has no place for compassionate individuals. They want the bullies, the iron fists, the cold-hearted by-the-book flunkies who will not question any directives from the Society.
Sylvia
that I am not alone in questionable handlings by elders.
So true.
That's too be expected.
The elder arrangement is a joke.
The congregations are a joke.
If you can worship Jehovah in your way, good for you.
Some here, myself included, have even abandoned the Bible and God as He is presented in the Bible.
I'm not telling you that's what you need to do.
Many here continue to identify themselves as Christians.
But you do need to keep reading and learning and asking questions.
Good luck!
Inactive?
You have 2 choices.
If you want to stay
Confront them on the reasons why you are being treated this way, ask if they feel you are responsible for you adult daughters falling away? Tell them you want forgiveness.
If they refuse, ignore the Elders and go to the KH. Ignore their requests and just sit through the meetings in the second row. Keep repeating the to them that you serve Jehovah. Keep going until they call the police (if they actually do this, next you call the local newspapers). Check back here ask for scans for you print and take to the meetings.
If they really want you gone ask for the letter of introduction to be handed to you personally, if they refuse, explain under no uncertain terms that if a hateful slanderous letter is sent to your next KH, you will move back to their KH and attend until your burial.
or
The decision to leave. If this becomes the only sane path consider that many have been forced out before you as results of KH politics. Meditate on the parables in Matthew. Re-read the instructions that Jesus left for his followers. Pray, sob, read JWD for therapy, and begin to piece your spiritual sanity back together. It has been done, many are in the process now, maybe one day I will join them instead "ignoring" the Elders too.
Reminder: By their LOVE you will know them.
God Bless
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At first we tried to be good little JW's
That's an interesting expression from a witness, hmm.
Inactive?
Details mean "what is the nature of you daughters DF'ing"?
Yes the Elders are holding you responsible or you wouldn't have been ask to step down.
Sorry
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