by Dagney 24 Replies latest jw friends
Just got off phone with newly appointed elder friend. At the end of the conversation, he says, "You know Dagney, we need to have the conversation...the one about meetings...I want to see you in the new system....I think about you every day, EVERYDAY!!"
I was all cheerful "Sure!!! We can talk!!!" (Dread dread dread)
But right now, my heart is racing and I have a lump in my throat.
What the heck is up with me? Any advice?
From now on, don't answer the phone unless it's a number you know and want to talk to.
Elders, and other dubs would be the opposite of that.
BA
Your misguided friend will come by to encourage you, and if you object to any part of it, your former friend will then betray your friendship and hand you over for disfellowshipping. Probably that isn't what you want.
Tell him you've decided that you would take your troubles to God in prayer and that you are sure that in God's good time He will answer you. No JW in their right mind will tell you that you should not "wait on Jehovah."
You've also been feeling a bit run down and tired lately, maybe a bit depressed. You will throw your burden on Jehovah rather than throw it on your friend, who has problems and difficulties of his own to worry about.
Selah.
(((Dagney)))
It's amazing that these conversations can make you feel like this isn't it?!
You'll feel back to normal soon if you just don't dwell on it too much.
You have successfully faded, keep it that way and just make it difficult to have 'that' conversation. If it comes to it, just tell him you just can't do it right now but that you're sure you'll make it to the new system anyway! :-)
You need to be there for him when he starts to have his doubts..... (see The Scotsman's posts - went from being super smug full on Witness to giving his notice in as an elder within 12 months!!!!!)
Love ya!
SP
It sometimes works to play 'depressed' say right now your in the process of a clinical diagnosis and your just trying to get by as it is - think about it though first because it may be the wrong card to play in this situation. You might need to also play him by saying you know its the truth etc
What you're feeling is normal. This is a good friend and you know his intentions are noble. But at the moment, you can't be completly honest with him about your feelings and that bugs you.
It's not your fault. Walking the thin line between "weak inactive publisher" and "raving lunatic apostate who should be DF'd right away" is tough.
Hang in there. Keep away from him and others who make you feel funny until you wrap your brain around it all.
changeling
Sorry friend. I get a little shaky when friends talk down to me too, 'you're not quite right with me until you sit in this one building for 4 hours per week' just hurts.
Dag: we need to have the conversation...the one about meetings...I want to see you in the new system....
new system----cult buzzword---not biblical
meetings will get you in the new system???
David gets in with murder and illicit sex so you can take your chances on no meetings being bad enough to get you in.....oompa
I would ask him if he really thinks God would whack you for not going to meetings
When people used to take that approach with me, I used to say, "Dont be thinking about me."
dagney
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