Thank you everyone for you replies. I don't know why the conversation affected me so much. He was telling me about a guy who was just reinstated, and I told him I already knew and why he was after 20 years. One of the elders on his JC stood up to the Nazi committee that continued to refuse his reinstatement. So my friend said "I don't get these guys. It's life and death! They have the power of life and death...why would they not want someone to have life!" (Looong pregnant pause from me.) Then the conversation about "me" began. And he gave a Sunday talk in a local hall which I didn't go to, again, and of course people are asking about me and he had to respond somehow.
Fortunately he lives on the east coast so no drop ins. And he knows I am very busy and hard to get a hold of, so I will be able to dodge him indefinitely, I hope I hope.
It's easy to deal with the insensitive JW's, in fact I rather enjoy challenging their gray matter. And I know my well meaning friend doesn't realize how ridiculous it sounds...meetings = salvation. *sigh* But as was said here you wish so much you could talk openly and honestly with persons you are close to, but you just can't. They do not "think;" everything is referenced in their mind to the recent meeting or literature study.
Thank you again for your reassuring comments. They are very much appreciated.