Anyone Remember The Chaperone Thing? (page 2)

expatbrit

Angharad:

Quite obviously Simon is so blissfully happy that the time is flying by without him noticing.

Expatbrit

p.s. Simon you owe me a beer

radar

Englishman

Taking sisters out into field service in a car was a joke.
They would have to sit in the back seat and brothers in the front.

I had one retired sister once ask me if I wanted her in the back seat, I kindly refused, so she sat in the front with me.

JWs are supposed to be so(morally) upright, yet could not be trusted by the watchtower, to even sit in the same car with the opposite sex.

Radar

All that we see or seem/ Is but a dream within a dream.

-Edgar Allen Poe

The WTS chaperoning policy was still quite active when I left four years ago. However, I think things may have changed or may be different than Simon's hall. Nobody was disfellowshipped for breaking off engagements at my KH.

I was engaged to a good JW boy at the at age 18 and broke off the engagement. I really didn't want to get married yet but was being pressured into doing so by the elders. Nobody said a thing when I broke it off. Of course, I became inactive a few months after then and everybody was saying, "It's a good thing Kevin didn't marry that Mandy girl". Nobody once inquired of how I was doing. Fuckers.

Tammie

Yea I remember that Chaperone Thing. And it sucked big time. But we figgure out ways around it. he he. And no one caught on. I fuggured that if we kept things clean in God's eyes, that should be all that mattered. But I remeber right after we was married, I mean that very night. We stopped a quick stop/gas station, to get so refreshments on the way home. We was doing the newly wedd thing of kissing in the car (necking), this sister walked by and gasped. She left very quickly. About a week later I ran into her, and she said, "I saw you in the car, and I am going to report you". I laugh at her and said go ahead. You should have seen the look on her face when the elder she reported us to. By the way that very elder was the one that married us. I just loved how the JW's are SO quick to judge. This time it back fired.

Simon

You genius expatbrit! (phew)

A crate is on it's way

Angharad

I'm sure this chaperone things causes more problems. It must happen that on the off chance a couple do end up alone together all they are thinking about is sex, and it's more likely to happen then.

Stephanus

Tammie, your story about Sister Nosey cracked me up! Was she told to mind her own business by the elder? LOL

The Dubs are really living in a fantasy land. The real world is steadily forcing its way in through the walls they have erected in the last century. People are seeing freedom, and it is NOT behind the Watchtower walls the way they were promised. Any Dub on the internet will know what it's about - look at YK and Yoyomama - technically in breach of Tower regs, but enjoying the stimulation of arguing with people who don't just regurgitate all the predigested crap from up the front of the KH.

A thought: in this day and age, how does the antiquated chaperoning rule cope with online JW dating services? How do you apply that rule to a couple who communicate in the privacy of their own bedrooms with each other? The internet thing allows people to meet from great distances away - two people from different areas meeting up with each other would easily foil the local spy network. Just another example of the Tower losing its power, I guess.

Billygoat

From what I can understand from some JW boards, the chaperone thing is much more lax than when I was a dub. Most of them said the only time a chaperone was necessary was when the couple were in a private place. If the two were going to dinner or out in public the chaperone wasn't necessary. But if the sister was to cook dinner for the brother IN HER HOUSE (gasp!) then of course a chaperone was called for. I agree with so many others here though...a chaperone? Get real! You're telling yourself and others that you are NOT to be trusted because you NEED one. Silly!

Andi

LittleToe

Stephanus:
You bring up a good point.
At a recent C.O.visit elder's meeting we were informed that masturbating during phone sex or online chat sessions constituted "unclean conduct".
Since there was no indication as to how this should be relayed to the R&F, am I'm left to assume that it was for the elders benefit???
LOL

LT

badwillie

Hey DIM,
Finally someone else from Philly. I'm in the suburbs, Montgomery County. How 'bout you?

Anyone Remember The Chaperone Thing?