Gosh, with all these new fangled dating practices, people could might possibly have to......BE RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR OWN MORALITY AND ETHICS!!!n (read in loud echo) *gasp* Tall order for most dubbies, but it might do 'em some good in the long run.
sad...
B.
p.s. as for my own chaperoning story--while I was never in a chaperone situation, I was told less than 6 years ago, that even if my car was broken down on the side of the road, I was not to ride alone in a car with a brother. idiots.
Anyone Remember The Chaperone Thing?
by Englishman 39 Replies latest jw friends
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Bridgette
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slipnslidemaster
Oh how I remember that chaporone thing so well. Alive and well just 8 short years ago for me. We used to have to have her brother "along" with us every where we went. And he was ALWAY's there whether he was "there" or not.
We used to drop him off at the skating rink and then go f*** for a couple of hours and then pick him back up again. It was great.
I remember one time, we were up in her room screwing while her parents had the PO over for dinner downstairs!! We left the door open so that we could hear them if they decided to come up. God, that was hot!!
Then there were the times mowing the grass at the Kingdumb hall. Our girlfriends would show up and we would take turns screwing them downstairs in the library while the other one would "guard" outside. Nothing made me smile more then thinking about that when I was in the library for my Judicial committees (never for that though!! ).
Get home from the meetings and meet her at her house, her parents would go up to bed and we would do it like beavers downstairs in the living room.
Ahhhh.........the good ol' days.
Slipnslidemaster:"The average person thinks he isn't."
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DIM
badwillie,
i'm positive I know you, and you certainly know me. Just be careful about what you say on this board, because I have a sneaky suspicion that the elder bodies in our area check up on these sorts of boards - some of the elders seem to be pretty up to date w/ the internet and stuff. I'd hate to see them come after you with a more harsh tone, cause I know how your family would treat you. Feel free to email me at this address: Homer [email protected] - talk to you later...
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NewbieGirl
Oh the chaperone thing is just SO funny! And from what I gather, still in tact at least a couple of years ago. A prime example of this:
About two years ago I was in my local supermarket and I spotted a bro from my old cong wandering about aimlessly. He didn't seem to be buying anything, just wandering up and down the aisles.
Anyway, he spotted me and approached me for a chat. (Quite a few from my old cong still talk to me as I wasn't DF'd or DA'd even though I was baptized) This Bro is in his fifty's and is an elder.
So out of curiosity I asked him if he was shopping (as he didn't appear to be) He told me that he had gone to his fiance's house across the road and because she was alone she wouldn't let him in. She had phoned another bro to come round and chaperone them and until he turned up this elder was killing time in the supermarket.
So I kept him company until his cell phone rang letting him know that Bro Chaperone had arrived and it was 'safe' to go to his fiances house. Well. I had to laugh really.
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drahcir yarrum
Did the JW's install all of these strict dating rules because they knew that Witness girls wouldn't say "No"?
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Angharad
A few years ago there was a documentary about jw's in the UK. There was a young couple who were engaged, the sister lived alone so they sat the car everytime he visited, even took a flask of coffee. The neighbours must have thought they were mad, but they just kept saying about what a good witness this was.
Does anyone else remember this program?
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ShaunaC
When I got married over 9 years ago chaperoning was huge in my life. More so cuz my parents were ridiculous. Before we walked down the aisle, my ex & I spent a total of I think 3 times together alone. They were for the most important occasions, like when he proposed we went to dinner. But the kicker....since we would go to his parents house since they were much more leniant, my parents required me to call them when we left the house for the restaurant, call them when we got to the restaurant, call them when we left the restaurant, call them when we got home. They knew where we were coming from and going to so they knew exactly how long the time should be between calls. Neither of us had cell phones way back then so it was kinda hard to fake.
Granted I was only 17. Funny how my parents just weeks before I got married wouldn't let me alone with him, even when he visited our house my mom would stand by us when we said goodbye to each other.....yet in just a few weeks I would be completely on my own! How in the hell do they reconcile that!!! Just glad I answer to no one anymore. Boy, that would be hard with the life of debauchery I live now!
Shauna
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Si
Many of the marriages that I know of from around the time this first became an issue in the mid-late 60's have either dissloved or remain in name only. I remember it being said from the platform that holding hands was not permitted prior to marriage, and a broken engagement was at least public reproof and loss of all privleges, although that may have depended on the elder body. After such an inauspicious start, one usually attempted to pioneer without adequate funds and not complain as that would be taken as evidence of a lack of J. spirit requiring more effort which probably meant more sacrifice. Recently a thread existed re memories of past CO's, and the name Phil Hayworth was mentioned in line with his emotive talks on the last days of Jesus. Unfortunately this CO was emotive about many things(possibly a personality disorder of the hystrionic type)and was personally responsible for a number of mis-matches that I know of in line with the dating/marriage issue. His, (but not only his) zeal in this field was taken up by many an elder, the results of which are still bearing fruit.
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Francois
You guys ever read any porno from the Victorian period? Steamy. Hot. Wild. Incredible. You put that much pressure into a system with no safe way to let it of a little at a time, and BANG, people are gonna bang. You'd think the JWs would learn from experience, but Noooooooooo. Gotta pressurize the situation as much as possible.
Why do you think that most of the elder's time is taken up "keeping the congregation clean"? Cause all those teens with all those hormones flashing around in their bloodstreams at near the speed of light are going to find a way to express themselves. It's human nature and God put it there. And there's not one god-damned thing the elders can do about it but attempt to sweep up the mess they've created with their assinine rules and regs. Young people are looked upon as an interesting form of wildlife that must be watched 24/7 or there's going to be some grousing in the goodie going on all over the place; panties are going to be stuck to the ceiling in rec rooms in the entire circuit; you just don't want to get between the irresistible force on its way to meet the immovable object. Bad idea.
Fuck the elders. I know for a fact that my elder uncle, who DFed people for the slightest foolin' around, used to park in the woods with his fiancee years earlier and get hand jobs and God knows what else. He never fessed up to more than that.
Hey folks! If it feels good, DO IT! Frequently! With abandon! With enthusiasm. Go for it. Get it on. Hide the cannoli baby!
FT
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think41self
Well,
The chaperoning thing was alive and well in 1984 when I was dating husband #1. I was the good little pioneer girl, so I was told I should set a "fine example". He was 31 years old, with two little kids, and we even were "talked" to by my uncle the elder for going to the park and stuff with the kids. Then, we were seen going to play racquetball in the middle of the afternoon alone! What sinners we were. When my uncle talked to me about that one...I kinda lost it. I said "Do you honestly think we're going to jump each others' bones in the bright afternoon sun, after playing a vigorous game of racquetball...all sweaty and smelly?" Please. And then I told him I didn't care if that bothered other people...it was their problem, not mine. Well, we managed not to disgrace ourselves and they let us get married in the hall, so I guess we passed the test.
think41self
Holy Flying Screaming Buddha, Batman!