Junction Guy, I just have to say you are one of the most confllicted men I have ever met. Please work out who you are before you bring anyone else in to your mess.
If you are honest, really having problems, and a genuine type person, most people dont want to listen to you, I have found that out the hard way.
On the contrary, I have always been myself, if a little reserved sometimes. I found out very quickly if I share the real parts of my life, the board comes alive. It's because deep down, we spot the genuine, really.
Anyone can be fooled for a while. I've allowed myself that weakness for some time. I am therefore not offended if I get "taken". It happens in real life. It happens here, too.