by Valrose 37 Replies latest social relationships
MissingLink:
Yes, he was baptized. He has not gone to a meeting or preach in two years, or an assembly.
Thank you all for replying. I am have a hard time imagining how they will react and behave in this matter. I would like to be prepared because I feel that it will be like a storm hitting on us.
Oh, and I won't respond positively to a bible study. I have no interest in joining a cult, christian or not. In that case what could they do? Would they cutoff all communication with their son? Would they treat him badly?
A friend of mine has a sister who is a hard core JW, same thing happend, her perfect son got his worldly GF pregnant, when she found out she offered to pay for her abortion, she said that since this worldly girl was bad enough to trick her son in to having sex and getting herself pregnant that she wouldn't have any objections with terminating. She demanded that her son never have anything to do with that girl or the baby, the girl ended up moving to a different state, she had the baby, and the perfect JW family acts like nothing ever happend. I don't know how can these wonderful christians could act worse than pagans
Twenty years ago some one in my family got pregnant by her boyfriend, she was still in high school, she was disfellowshipped and sent to live with me and my family, her boyfriend was told that he would be charged with rape and he was told never to come around the family ever again. He moved to another state with distant family never to be heard from again. The baby was told that his real father abanded them and that he real father was Jehovah. Fast forward, as a young man the kid found his real father and was told the story of what happend when his mother was pregnant, and how he was scared off with the threats that his grandfather and grandmother made. Now days the child who is a adult wants nothing to do with the JW's as he feels they ruined his life and destroyed his childhood.
What kind of relationship can you expect with them?
I don't have a relationship with them since they like to pretend that I don't exist and I'm not part of their son's life.
That about sums it up....
His parents are still very devoted JW. I don't have a relationship with them since they like to pretend that I don't exist and I'm not part of their son's life.
Welcome to the forum, Valrose. I'm sorry to hear how the parents have treated you up till now. Do you think circumstances will change when they find out their son has been dating you. Every situation is different, depending on how liberal the parents are with the religion. The pregnancy could change things, if the parents had feelings for their son's baby. What does the boyfriend think of the whole situation?
You have all kinds of choices. I say choose what is best for you, personally.
Have I missed some choices? Keep in touch with everyone here because people here care.
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ESTEE
Hi y'all
My choice is to keep my baby. We are adults with steady jobs and live together. We were not planing on having children yet, but it happened. I don't want to get married because of this. I hope they don't try anything as crazy as trying to take my baby away because that will be it! I have been patient with them, respectful. But it is my baby, my life. I just think it is not fair that they make someone's life miserable just because they don't share your beliefs. I'm worried about my boyfriend because I need him to be there for me, I don't want to make a desicion against him because of what his parents do. This sucks! I wanna be happy about having my first baby!
Would they cutoff all communication with their son? Would they treat him badly?
Yes, and Yes.
I doubt his parents are bad people, but they are trained by the cult to behave badly so don't be surprised by anything crazy they do.
They've been pretending that you don't exist. They've had their head in the sand and refused to acknowledge to themselves that their beloved son might be having sex. No baptized unmarried JW would ever do that, would they?
They may start to shun their son now and he may even be disfellowshipped (that formalises the shunning).
On the other hand, if the mum loves babies - you never know, her natural instincts may take over. She is going to be a grandmother. That should be exciting.
There is a large variation in how JW families handle these situations.
Valrose,
Read the book, Have You Seen My Mother?
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