Unmarried and pregnant by JW (page 4)

SickofLies

Just a suggestion, but why not try and get your boyfriend to start posting here and maybe we can help him see the light.

This board has helped many people leave that cult and might be able to help your BF as well.

It's worth a shot.

Good grief! How could I forget to share this! The power of a child is an incredible thing. My JW wife of 15 years went pretty mental for a couple of years and ran off and got pregnant by a strange guy she has nothing to do with now, and we had two great sons barely in school. So she is Dfd (kicked out of church) and we divorce. But I stayed as supportive as I could cause she was a real mess for at least three years.

Imagine my surprise when my parents went crazy over my wifes new kid when it was born! They said they were too and just couldn't help it, that since he was my childrens half brother, it made them feel like his grandparents too. They have been a huge help the past ten years to my ex and her son and I am glad, she was an awesome wife and we still get along great. Sure better than fighting.......oompa

hamsterbait

The most important thing with witless relatives and your children.

NEVER EVER LEAVE YOUR KIDS ALONE WITH THEM. NEVER!!!

HB

jgnat

You two are independent, love each other, and a baby is on it's way. That's all good stuff.

How has your own family been? Are they in the picture? Depending how HIS parents respond, your own parents may have to fill in the gap, grandparent-wise.

He also has to figure out how he feels about his religion. In the absence of his parent's support, will he stand up for you and your child? That's the big question. Some JW's who drift away from the society will go back in when their child is older. After all, this is how he was raised and it is all he knows. Do what you can to broaden his perspective now.

Frequent_Fader_Miles

In the absence of his parent's support, will he stand up for you and your child? That's the big question.

I believe that to be the biggest question of all, because in the end, you live with HIM and not his parents. What if he is disfellowshipped because of his relationship with you? If he has the calling to return as a JW, your relationship with his parents will be the least of your worries.

This should be a joyous time of your life, and he should be there to support you.

Valrose

This is overwhelming. So much to consider beyond normal. I am thankful for all your messages it does help me have a better idea of what we are in for. My bf has been very supportive of me. He chose not to tell his family yet, he isn't ready. My family is very supportive of us. We've talked about some of the things you guys have suggested, and I feel more calm now. I don't think he would go back but I told him anyway that I don't want my child to grow in that religion or atmosphere. I want it to have a better chance at life and better childhood memories than he did.

Can I say I love you guys, even if I haven't met you? Hormones making me mushy ji ji ji jiji

Wordly Andre

Valrose, Good luck and congrats!! I'm sure you will make a wonderful mommy, best wishes for you and your BF

momzcrazy

Welcome to JWD valrose! Congratulations on your coming baby! I don't have anything to add except to enjoy the new addition to your family. Don't let anyone negative drown your joy.

momzcrazy

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