Amazingly enough my JW sister ( very self righteous ex-Gilead graduate ) called me for the first time in 3 years asking for her own 32 year old inactive daughters phone number . Her husband's mom died last Friday , my brother -in -laws mom , and she said she had not talked with her daughter, my niece , in 5 years. My sister dissapproved of her daughter getting a law degree at a university in California and shunned her for 5 years because her daughter stopped going to meetings to get an education ! So, my sister knew I was still talking with her daughter and staying close to her, so she had to call me for her own daughters phone number to inform her of her grandmother's death . So weird.
The conversation with my sister was so stilted and tense, you could tell it just killed her to get her own daughters phone number from her quote " apostate " brother . Her voice was unemotional as she started in asking, " Mr. Flipper do you have my daughters phone number ? My husband's mom died and we wanted to be the ones to tell my daughter . " Of course I was sympathetic, I said, " I'm so sorry sis to hear that happened. Please tell your husband I'm sorry. " My sister continued, " I don't know if you keep in touch with my daughter much , but we just have her old phone number, not her current one . We have tried to get her new one but can't get a hold of her by e-mail or anything . " I said, " Sure, here is her number, I'm sure she will be glad you guys told her instead of getting the news through the grapevine . " I continued, " Your daughter is doing well in school, got her law degree , is also working in acupressure as well as law . I'm proud of her. She is a wonderful niece ! " I continued , " You should be proud of her too in what she has accomplished ! " My sister was quiet, and said, " Well thanks for the number. " I thought , What a rude woman, not to acknowledge her daughters accomplishments !
Then I asked to talk with her elder husband to give him condolences . He got on and was so polite, thankful and grateful to me for having compassion for his mom dying . He even asked about how I was doing ? , (something my own sister would not even do ! ) I said I was fine , had married a wonderful woman, through e-harmony, and he said, " I'm so happy for you. Sounds like things are working out great for you. " We talked about my mom's operation in September and had a lovely 10 minute conversation , as opposed to a 1 minute chat with my sister !
It reminded me of the book I am reading, " Combatting Cult Mind Control". It says cult members have 2 personalities, the cult personality- then the real personality . My brother in law showed me his real , decent personality ( non-cult ) , but my sister still had the cult personality while just talking about family deaths ! So stilted, guarded, unemotional and robotic . It is truly unbelievable to me, that two parents did not have their own daughters phone number, and have to call me to get it ! Unbelievable ! A truly sad commentary on how this Jehovah's Witness cult- rips families apart . What do you folks think of this experience ? Have you had similar things happen, where you don't hear from relatives, and then in a family emergency they desperately call you because they are forced too ? I invite your experiences too ! Thanks, and Merry Christmas and Peace out, Mr. Flipper