VERY strange phone call.

momzcrazy

As most of you know, on Dec 22 I sent my letter of DA to a local elder. In my same town. About a mile away.

Well...I got a phone call today from a very sweet sister, who, if I had stayed, I could have become good friends with. She wanted to plan a play date with her, myself and another family for tomorrow after service. So took a nap and forgot about it. Just a few minutes ago, she called back. I said that I guess they haven't announced it, but I DA'd myself. She was shocked. They haven't announced anything! There have been 2 Thursday night meetings since I sent it. She started crying and said if I ever want to come back to call her. I reiterated that my decision had nothing to do with anyone in the hall, for the most part they had been great. Of course she asked why. I said the same thing I told the elder who called. It was private between Jehovah and my family and I.

How weird is it they haven't announced it? I do feel bad about her finding out that way. I guess I wanted someone else to tell all of them, not me personally. I hate thinking I've hurt anyone. She really is a genuinely nice person who always tried to include us and make us feel welcome. She is the example of finding good people in every hall.

Now I am going to drink and smoke till I can't feel feelings anymore. Just kidding. Kind of.

momz

Odrade

:::Now I am going to drink and smoke till I can't feel feelings anymore. Just kidding. Kind of.

you forgot the fornicatin' and murderin' parts. HA!

Gopher

I thought the elders would have wanted to announce "Momzcrazy is no longer a Jehovah's Witness" as soon as they could, in order to protect the flock from your evil influence.

On the other hand, when your friend called to get together, in hindsight maybe you could have just accepted. It's not up to you to inform her of your status, and she couldn't have gotten in any trouble because there had been no announcement so you're not officially on the black list. And she would have seen one last time what a great friend you were (though DA'd). I know, easier said than done!

Bumble Bee

Maybe your letter got lost in the Christmas mail rush?

It is strange that it's not announced yet if they've received it. Do they have to have an elders meeting first? Maybe some former elders could shed some light on the procedure.

BB

Abandoned

((((((((((momzcrazy))))))))))

Feel the emotions. Don't hide from them. The sooner you feel them and deal with them the sooner you'll be able to truly move on.

Advice from someone who spent many years bottling things up...

Finally-Free

It took the elders a full month to make an announcement after they got my letter. They'll probably do it the next time they have a "local needs" part in the meeting.

W

tula

Maybe they are getting a deluge of letters lately and want to keep it quiet in the ranks.

Maybe the theme this year will be "The Great Falling Away".

momzcrazy

Feel the emotions. Don't hide from them.

You're right, of course. I have a bad habit of bottling up. I am very stoic until hubby comes home, then I fall apart. He is hunting with his daddy all weekend! I feel better now though. Just had to have a bit of time.

I posted within 5 minutes of hanging up. Does that tell ya'll how much you mean to me? Only you guys know how it feels.

momz

Tara

I dropped off my DA letter at the KH. Over a year later I got a call from an elder. I said I wasn't going back. he said "We'll be reading your letter to the congregation then". I was flabbergasted they hadn't read it when I gave it to them. Everyone I was friendly with already knew though because they had stopped associating with me.

momzcrazy

Here I was thinking that chapter was over, but it went into overtime. I just want this all to be done. It's like ripping off a band aid over and over. And I haven't even seen old friends from my previous hall. Why must they make it so hard to think for yourself and make different decisions?

momz

VERY strange phone call.

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