VERY strange phone call.

by momzcrazy 25 Replies latest jw friends

  • AWAKE&WATCHING
    AWAKE&WATCHING

    Momz - when I sent my letter DAing myself in 1990 they formed a committee and tryed 3 times to get me to meet with them. One of the brothers who was one of the 3, and I was very close to, came by my place of employment and asked me what I was going to do. I looked at him dead in his eye and said, "Anything I want, anytime I want with anyone I want." and walked away. They made the announcement a few weeks later.

    Funny thing was I was shocked by what I said. I still believed it all I just couldn't take the stress and felt like I would never measure up. I look back on it now and think that I knew then, at least subconsciously that it was mind control. I went back 11 years later and stayed for 6 years.

  • Billy the Ex-Bethelite
    Billy the Ex-Bethelite

    Momz,

    They should have announced it by now, with a signed and dated letter from you. Did you send a letter to your previous congregation, too? Maybe the local congregation is sitting on it, as if waiting to inform your previous. Perhaps the brother you sent it to is just sitting on it and hasn't told the local body even.

    Knowing some congregations, all I have to add is the doctored lyrics of an oldie: "There must be 50 ways to lose your letter..."

    Billy

  • darth frosty
    darth frosty

    At a guess I would say its all about appearances. When someone DA's they are to be treated as disfellowshipped. If you check out the elders letters regarding a DA they are to assume that the person has done wrong or violated their christian neutrality.

    I would imagine when too many DA letters show up, with people who are not drunken, crack addicted fornicators, its hard to put a negative spin on the person who DA'ed.

  • rache31
    rache31

    I think there's quite an increase in da letters and the elders don't really know what to think of it. Many probably sit on it until they can speak with the CO. Or they attempt to meet with you and talk you out of it. This happened to a family friend of mine. It just delayed the announcement and they were frustrated with them. They wanted to cut ties and move on. Sorry, this happened momz. I'll be thinking of you...

  • Must obey!
    Must obey!

    I think that is why I would never disassociate myself...can't see the point...all it would do is really hurt some people who love me.

  • flipper
    flipper

    MOMZCRAZY- Hey sis, Mr. Flipper here . Sorry to hear the elders are dragging this out for you. It has been my experience that the elders are very inept and dysfunctional , at best when dealing with many situations. In the fall September of 2006 ,my ex-wife tried with my daughter to spy on me and Mrs. Flipper a month before marrying to catch us doing the " dirty " deed. Elders called me over 2 months later claiming allegations of " circumstantial " fornication. I denied it, said I would not meet with them , nothing to meet about, wife and I married in October 2006. Did not hear anything until 4 months later in March 2007 ! I got a phone call saying the elders had formed a judicial commmittee to meet about my denied allegations. Once again I said I would not meet with them as there was nothing to meet about .Told them to stop harassing me or I'd get a restraining order. Then in early May 2 elders came to my door saying they were disfellowshipping me for " circumstantial fornication". So I fought the false allegations- had an appeal juducial meeting on the DFing decision , and the society overturned the disfellowshipping in June of 2007. So these bastards sucked 9 to 10 months out of my life, just to declare me innocent in the end. Believe me, these a$$holes are truly not qualified to do anything. Don't let them waste your life or cause you stress .

    They caused me so much stress I had to go on blood pressure medicine for the last year and few months . They will literally suck the life out of you if you permit it. Only reason I fought it- was so I could still talk with my witness parents 82 and 80. If it was not for that, I would have let it go. Peace out, hang in there MOMZ ! Mr. Flipper

  • dawg
    dawg

    Momz, don't worry that you did the worng thing... feelings get hurt when people use their love as blackmail as all JWs clearly do... you did the right thing in my mind DAing. It lets all know you don't agree with these evil men who destroy lives.

    Flipper.... you ole fornicator you... can't see why you fought it, maybe it was you name you were protecting, can't blame you for that.. but to have idiots, like many elders are, have control... I won't and can't live with that... THat's why I like what Momz did.

  • flipper
    flipper

    DAWG- My mom and dad 80 and 82 have been favorable on my " fading" status- that is why I fought it , they still associate with me in spite of knowing my views against the org. But if I had got DFed, they probably would have done the " company " line thing and shunned me. So, as long as they know my views but will still associate with me , I'll keep it like that for now

  • dawg
    dawg

    Flipper, I can see this as a valid reason, I knew you had good reasons for doing what you did... I wasn't questioning your logic, I rely upon it.... Good day mate! Huff

  • R.Crusoe
    R.Crusoe

    It is a sad response that friends feel emotionally torn when you make a decision which you feel is more in keeping with your heart. Really friends should be able to support and encourage you. But as we know the 'US ONLY' brain chains go deep and make people feel they atre losing a friend in the afterlife. It is such a ridiculously emotionally controlling set of rulings and the way it stops people thinking and feeling for themselves is soul destroying. It is so sad that so many sincere souls get caught in such a brain drain!

    Good luck with your feelings momz and putting them into words in case anyone else tugs on your heart.

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