wish i could say that your experience wasnt typical............. cause it should be a horrible rare occurance in an organization that claims to be directed by holy spirit. unfortunately its all to common as many have shown.
fact is......... if you decide to write the DA letter........... your following THEIR rules.......... why bother.
you surely realize that they only love bomb you to get you to sign up and then try to brainwash you into pushing their posionous publications upon other innocent ones to try and hook them........... thats their established MO.
they have NOTHING from god...... they are not the one "TRUE" religion.
now if you are in a position to move and change your phone number.... that will make it harder for them to bother you........ but not everyone can do that. IT WORKED WONDERS FOR ME. i left the state and have only been back to visit.
with you not having any jw family........... then reconnect with your family and friends and ignore those jw fools.
now personally my wife has an aunt who is so very concerned with her own status in the congregation, her husband(deceased) was one of those men who gave half the talks at the district convention, who hobnobbed with the top people....... and the entire district LOVED HIM..... no WORSHIPED him........ was a total bastard at home ...... constant verbal abuse....... total tool. she stays in her old cong tho........ to get that continued adoreation.
well recently my wife and i decided to SIMPLIFY because of a mortgage adjustment... well her aunt was told by mother in law.. our situation...... and instead of trying to help us decides to bash us and scold my wife on issues we have already beaten ourselfs up about.......... so wife walks out and aunt becomes a queen B. all this after the house was sold........... she claims to family that she wants to help......... but she told my wife she wanted to buy the house as a VACATION PROPERTY for herself. she told someone else that she wanted to buy it to run a business out of........... and she told family that she wanted to help us keep the house in the family...........
so she takes personal information about us that makes us look foolish...... which in fact takes tons of pressure off of us........ and lets us live a better life........ a decision we came to after much debateing and were happy with.............. and tells ALL MY WIVES FAMILY....... and makes it look like my wife was mean to her when she was trying to help us............
so i tell my wife........ your aunt is lucky were christians....... cause if we werent we would allow ourselves to reveal her faults............ and she has many........... and she would look twice as foolish to the family..... instead i said............... hey babe....... wanna write a letter of DAing to her old cong?
wife bursts into hales of laughter............ turns red in the face...... imagineing the announcement..........
"olga" is no longer one of jehovahs witnesses (name changed of course) and the ensueing rush by EVERYONE to know why their favorite regular pioneering super publisher is no longer a jw.......... did she do something......... what happened........... etc etc etc.
little miss im so perfect and everyone adores me........... haveing to explain why her neice is now an apostate, after all the lies she has told people when they asked before.................. oh the shame.
now i reconize NO authority of the society over me or my wife.......... but i told her if she wanted to do that i would send a DA letter to my old cong.......... then we would laugh our a$$es off. but she said shes not ready for that........ so it wont happen.
some crazy reason like that is the only reason i would ever DA
ive left that cult and want NOTHING from those fools