I'm a Anarchist basically with a ever widening opening mind. And I believe in them I don't beleive that either sex should dominate over the other . On the grounds that every one is master over thier own body, and so to demand loyalty in the use of anothers body seems wrong.
Open Relationships, and Society's Cultural Unwritten Boundaries
by frankiespeakin 29 Replies latest jw friends
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prophecor
There'll be none of that!!!
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frankiespeakin
Prop,
I suppose both male/female and civil life made the present cultural institutions. But now we are comming out of the m/f domination phase.
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R.Crusoe
Excellent title!!
You are right IMO. The boundaries that govern everyones lives create problems for many rather than solutions that those individuals will likely have to pay for in some way. And it is not justice but a following of man made rules. The proof of this lies in how one rule can get you life in one country and is accepted behaviour in another! We are all conditioned and imprinted with notions we feel may come from God but now it is so simple to see what is going on the world over we can use our intellect to develop fresh perspectives.
It is far from simple however because there are so many opinions in the melting pot that deciding on one rule for all is as bad as the dogma that already exists in some ways of life. And some excellent ideas get trashed by groups wanting to preserve their own power base. It is hoped that reason, understanding, compassion, education and peace will prevail and dominate humanity!! I love that idea!
But the whole history of humankind suggests otherwise - which is a very sad thought!
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Aphrodite
What brought this up?
(interested because I have an open relationship).
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TheSilence
That image looks like Julie Andrews to me, which makes it very disturbing.
Sorry, off topic, but it was very disturbing ;)
Jackie
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frankiespeakin
R cur,
Some good things to ponder on for sure.
Afro,
Nothing that I could point a finger at,, just trying to get a discussion going on the subject, and because many feel it morally wrong, so why not examine it more closely with both pros and cons have a say.
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Aphrodite
Well, I can say from experience it works very well for my husband and I. We have a very strong and loving relationship and are both understanding and giving towards each other. I guess we looked at life and said "Who am I to stop this other being from enjoying life in every way possible?' So we decided on an open relationship. We have been married 16 years and had an open relationship for the past 3 or 4. Not really taken much advantage of it, but feel secure that we could (and have) when we wanted to.
The strange thing is that people who don't have open relationships seem to think that people who do are sex maniacs, who would bonk anything on legs. Its pretty crazy some of the reactions you get. (not that I go around spouting it off to everyone.) (Like I am doing here lol)
I think I could easily live in a polygamous relationship as well, I'd be quite happy to have another girl around the house.
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frankiespeakin
Afro,
Most of my gfs are bi, and I'm not one of these watcher types they can do what ever around me, it doesn't arouse me and I don't concider it a invitation to join in. I think a lot of women need another women in their lives, i respect it, and don't try to control it.
One gf wants me to do her with another guy, I'm not too thrilled about the idea but if it means a lot to her she might be able to twist my arm and get me to do it. I've done the 2 girl thing a couple of times and never liked it,,it is too busy,, and too easy to offend some one or leave them out.
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Aphrodite
Its been my experience that there are a lot more people that are comfortable with the idea/practice of an open relationship than most would think. Most people just don't like it to be known. Also its often that the women are bi. Just seems to work well that way. I guess people in an open relationship mostly want it to be discreet you know, especially if you are known well in your town, have a business etc. Really its none of peoples business what your sexual orientation is, but the gay movement seems to have made orientation a pride issue.
