Yep, the kicker is the "obedience" clause, which they can get you for just about anything. I've been told that is specifically why I am shunned by former very close friends, it's not just that I don't go to meetings, (sigh), it's my "disobedience to the slave" in not attending meetings as declared by the patriarch of the family.
I have thought about this should the time come when I am confronted face to face on this issue. I've been taking the offensive stand with friends with the point I live in the USA and I can go and read and talk to whomever I damn well please. It's my right as a citizen. So far it's working with them, not sure how it will work with elders.
Every year there seems to be a veiled threat to faders coming down from corporate. I used to be worried; but from what I've seen in my area, the elders are way too busy with their lives, (work, family, congregation), to spend time looking for those who have quietly left. But anything can change.